My husband and I haven't slept in the same bed for over 10 years. He snores and I'm a light sleeper. We lay in bed watch TV/have sex etc then he'll take a shower and leave. Then off to sleep I go.

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Anonymous wrote:My parents have been married almost 40 years and have been sleeping in separate beds for at least half that time. But my dad has horrible sleep apnea and snores loudly.

I think it takes a very, very secure and otherwise affectionate marriage for separate beds to be a positive thing.

Sleep apnea is a serious condition, and use of a Cpap machine not only treats it but eliminates the snoring. If your dad can’t use a CPap, he should check out some alternatives that have been developed in recent years — e.g. the device made by inspire medical.

He has lost some weight which helped a little, and years ago he went to a sleep clinic but left because he said with all the machinery on him (like a CPAP) he couldn’t sleep (lol). At this point he’s given up trying to resolve it and the separate bedrooms works for them. On vacation when they end up in the same room my mom wears very thick ear plugs.

I got over chronic insomnia a few years back and I just prefer sleeping alone. We’re doing pretty good, married almost 20 years.

So a wife doesn't just get tired from household stuff, and then reading DCUM, and just fall asleep on the couch night after night?

Anonymous wrote:Yes, snoring issue.

+1

My dad snores and stays up until 2-3am. My mom needs absolute silence, ear plugs, and a sound machine (even when by herself), complete darkness, and in bed by 9pm. They’ve been sleeping separately for 20 years.

Anonymous wrote:My parents have been married almost 40 years and have been sleeping in separate beds for at least half that time. But my dad has horrible sleep apnea and snores loudly.

I think it takes a very, very secure and otherwise affectionate marriage for separate beds to be a positive thing.

Sleep apnea is a serious condition, and use of a Cpap machine not only treats it but eliminates the snoring. If your dad can’t use a CPap, he should check out some alternatives that have been developed in recent years — e.g. the device made by inspire medical.

Yes, snoring and restless legs. If we shared a bed, I would never get a good night's sleep.

We did this for a number of years before divorcing. We used to tell ourselves it was ok/normal/other couples do it.

Because of snoring we often end up in different rooms. But we always start in the same bed at the same time and hope to wake up that way.

Yes, snoring issue.

I have heard of this when the guy snores real loudly.

My parents have been married almost 40 years and have been sleeping in separate beds for at least half that time. But my dad has horrible sleep apnea and snores loudly.

I think it takes a very, very secure and otherwise affectionate marriage for separate beds to be a positive thing.

Everyone I know who does this has either 1) a medical reason 2) is old or 3) eventually divorced.

Are there other married couples who do this? We still have sex.