Sorry for the multiple posts, but kids aren’t going to make fun of her for wearing her elementary shirt to high school. Let her if it fits. No one cares. Honestly mom, you sound like the mean girl. She will find her people. If it doesn’t fit then put it away but don’t trash it if she’s sentimental.

^It sounds like you need therapy since you care so much about what your teen is wearing.

I’m 44 and I don’t care about clothes. I want them to be comfortable, clean and presentable for work. At this point in my life I can pick out a few basics. But fashion and style? I don’t care. I don’t need therapy. Leave your DD alone. That’s over the top.

Make sure she has clothes to wear to school and she will let you know if she wants something different.

They may or may not laugh, she may or may not adjust her behavior, she isn’t stupid.

OP here. I brought up the therapist thing because every post on this site gets that response. And it wouldn’t be totally wrong because she does have anxiety and could use some help. She has a hard time making choices in general and clothes are no different.
I know I shouldn’t make it a big deal when it’s not something that bothers her but I would hate for kids to make fun of her when she wears her elementary graduation shirt to high school. Because she would do something like that. She also would freak out if I took it out of her closet, as she sees nothing wrong with wearing it now.

A therapist because she doesn’t care about clothes? For real?!

My Mom bribed me to go clothes shopping with a trip to the book store. I had to buy three outfits, shoes, coat and whatever else I needed. Then I could go to the book store and buy $20 worth of books.

I would talk with her and ask why she doesn’t care.

I was like this. If I was given money, I’d just spend it on something else and keep wearing old clothes. Not everyone cares so much about clothing.

Give her some money to get her own clothes

Why would you get her a therapist just because she doesn't care what she wears? She's her own person, not you, and that's ok.

My 14 year old girl wears tshirts, shorts, leggings, and sweatpants. She grabs the first clothes she finds, including tshirts that are too small, unless I take them out of her closet. This does not require therapy.

Who told you you shouldn’t be suggesting therapy to her? My son is younger but if I didn’t suggest things he would just be sitting home all day...

Does she have a friend who could advise? Perhaps the friend could tell you which store she prefers.

Sorry not sure what happened. Zero interest in what they wear. My almost 15 year old is so difficult to shop for simply because she doesn’t give her opinion on anything. I let her choose and she never knows what to buy. I choose something for her (give her choices) and it’s still like pulling teeth. She’s about to start high school in person finally and wouldn’t care if she went to school with her clothes that she has outgrown. But the problem is that I care so I end up buying her what looks good to me, which, let’s face it, in in my mid 40s so may not be whats in. I know some of this is anxiety but when I tried to find a therapist for her I was told that unless she says she wants to talk to someone I shouldn’t force it. So here we are.

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