IME their social lives change when friends start driving. Before that there is too much parent coordinating to make things happen, so less happens.

Anonymous wrote:Lately, lifeguarding. During the school year, swimming, studying or playing video games.

I do not have a social 10th grader!! "Why do I need to see these people on the weekends? I see them all week long!"

Wow I thought I wrote that until you said 10th grade. Our kids are clones. LOL

I have a 16 and 17 yo. Both are out with friends almost every night. They are usually at a friend’s house. Not always the same house. This is the same with both friend groups

My 11th grader has a summer job so he usually works. During the school year, he might go to a friend's house and sometimes spend the night there or vice versa. He spends Sundays avoiding his homework and then rushing to finish it while I yell at him. Good times.

My 11th grader has two best friends who she usually sees on the weekends, more likely daytime than evenings and at least one weekday evening. She had been widening her friend circle before schools shut down during freshman year so I don't know if there would have been more socializing. With COVID she's really only seen those two friends. This weekend, she's going to the Arlington Fair on Sat with the two BFFs and then to a party with a group from marching band on Sunday night.

He’ll usually do something with friends at least one night and probably one daytime activity. They like to go out to eat, sometimes see a movie, just go driving around, stuff like that.

Anonymous wrote:It has changed so much over the last 18 months. I do not know what is normal anymore.

+1

Anonymous wrote:My 10th grader is at the MoCo fair tonight. My 12th grader is watching tv with us.

Same here!

My 10th grader is at the MoCo fair tonight. My 12th grader is watching tv with us.

My rising 10th grader used to be outgoing and people loving with plans, wanted friends over, etc. After the past school year with covid, he's not interested in socializing except on video games. It's sad. I hope 5-day a week school will help this year.

Lately, lifeguarding. During the school year, swimming, studying or playing video games.

I do not have a social 10th grader!! "Why do I need to see these people on the weekends? I see them all week long!"

Same. My soon to be sophomore sees friends on weekends a couple of times a month.

15 year old DD spent the evening with middle school friends outside from 5:30-8:00 tonight. They talked and ate pizza on the patio of one girl‘s house. Tomorrow probably nothing. Last week she watched a movie with a couple of friends and was home around 11. That’s been unusual up to now aside from Mitzvahs. Having sleepover with a camp friend this Sunday.

That’s all pretty normal for her.

It has changed so much over the last 18 months. I do not know what is normal anymore.

Trying to gage what is “normal” for a 9th or 10th grader. What are yours typically doing on a Friday or Saturday night or over the weekend?