Anonymous wrote:Buy a set of bunk beds. For right now, set up nursery in one room, bunks in another. Baby goes into nursery, older kids enjoy the bunks.

Once baby is ready for a bed (2-3 years from now), your then-11 year old girl will love getting her own room, and the then-6 yo will be ready to take the top bunk with his younger sibling on the bottom. If your youngest turns out to be a climbing daredevil, unbunk the beds for a bit.

This! I wouldn’t even consider any other arrangement right now

Buy a set of bunk beds. For right now, set up nursery in one room, bunks in another. Baby goes into nursery, older kids enjoy the bunks.

Once baby is ready for a bed (2-3 years from now), your then-11 year old girl will love getting her own room, and the then-6 yo will be ready to take the top bunk with his younger sibling on the bottom. If your youngest turns out to be a climbing daredevil, unbunk the beds for a bit.

We’re not having a new baby but have an 8 and 3.5 yo that share a room and sound like yours: annoy and cuddle, depending on mood. They mostly enjoy sharing a room and are angling for bunk beds which we’ve agreed to once younger DD is 4. In your case, I would keep them together for the next 1-2 years until baby sleeps through the night, and then move DD to her own room and the toddler with DS, both because by then DD will start to enjoy some privacy and because the younger two will be on a similar bedtime/reading schedule.

Anonymous wrote:My youngest is 16 but two of my three kids shared a room for 10 years. We told them early on that there was nothing they could do about it.

Fine if they’re all boys or all girls.

I would have the baby in my room until they sleep through the night, then they sleep with the 3 yr old.

My oldest kids are 8 and 6 and love sharing a room. So the baby got their own room. May change in the future.

8 year old girl should not share with a boy.

Our 3 year old is wonderful but wacky and unpredictable. We planned to have the baby and her share but the I started to envision the 3 year old trying to get in the crib with the baby or getting mad at the baby and putting things in the crib or waking up and poking the baby. So, not going to share until that child is more mature.

Baby just sleeps in our room

My youngest is 16 but two of my three kids shared a room for 10 years. We told them early on that there was nothing they could do about it.

Two youngest together after the baby is out of your room.

The fairest thing to do for your kids is to have the baby sleep in your room until he consistently STTN.

Our 19 month old is in a pack n play in our room because realistically she is still waking up at some point in the night. So our 12 yo and 5 yo still have their own rooms. We plan to move the two little ones to the biggest room since their bedtime routines are at the same time. It feels like the natural next step.

I wouldn't make a change in the older kids' arrangements before they adjust to the new sibling, and you see how the baby sleeps.

If in 6 months, she's asking for a change and the baby sleeps well, then make that change. Maybe give her bunkbeds so if baby is going through a rough patch she can have a sleepover with little bro.

If in 6 months, she's still wanting to share, or the baby is up a lot in the night, or the 3.5 year old is still adusting to baby, then put the baby in their own room and revisit when he/she is ready for a toddler bed.

I word just see how things go. You have at least seven months before you’d need to have an extra bedroom for the baby.

Probably it will make the most sense to put the baby in with the younger child, especially if it’s a baby boy.

How do you decide who shares a room? We have an almost 8 yo girl, 3.5 yo boy, and a soon to be newborn. The two current kids are sharing a room now. Moving DHs office to add an extra room. I’m worried the eldest will want more privacy soon, and she’s not the best sleeper, so was thinking of putting her in her own room, and having the 3 yo and newborn share (newborn will be in our room for the first 6 months anyway). DD 8 was excited about her own room, but is now excited about the possibility of bunk beds with little brother. She claims she gets annoyed with him but loves to cuddle with him. He adores her. How would you split this up?

And we have been looking for slightly bigger houses, but many of them are even only 3 br.