Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:08     Subject: Re:Family pressure for son’s name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nope, it has to be the first name for them.


What does your dh say? Your inlaws seriously are wrong. They named their kids now it is your turn.



How do you know her husband's name isn't his grandfather's name?


it’s actually not since he wasn’t first born.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:07     Subject: Family pressure for son’s name
Anonymous wrote:Did you know the tradition prior to marriage?


No, I didn’t know. I found out when we were trying to conceive but didn’t know it was a big deal until we got pregnant.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:07     Subject: Re:Family pressure for son’s name
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Nope, it has to be the first name for them.


What does your dh say? Your inlaws seriously are wrong. They named their kids now it is your turn.



How do you know her husband's name isn't his grandfather's name?
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:06     Subject: Family pressure for son’s name
Did you know the tradition prior to marriage?
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:05     Subject: Re:Family pressure for son’s name
My husband is all about the tradition. I know it saddens him that I don’t like it.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:04     Subject: Re:Family pressure for son’s name
Anonymous wrote:Nope, it has to be the first name for them.


What does your dh say? Your inlaws seriously are wrong. They named their kids now it is your turn.

Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:04     Subject: Re:Family pressure for son’s name
FILs name is Hani. Feel like the kid will be made fun of and called “honey.” I’m not a fan of the name either.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:03     Subject: Family pressure for son’s name
Surprise them by not revealing anything until after the birth. They will be delighted once they have the grandchild in their arms.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:03     Subject: Family pressure for son’s name
What is your husband's opinion?
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:02     Subject: Re:Family pressure for son’s name
American tradition is often to name the boy after the dad - would you have objected to a 'Jr., IV, etc'?

I mean you could offer a compromise - grandfather is Thomas George and kid is George Thomas.

Or you can just let the husband have this win and state that the second kid's name is all yours.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:02     Subject: Family pressure for son’s name
What's your FIL's name? And what does your husband say? Good luck navigating.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:02     Subject: Re:Family pressure for son’s name
Nope, it has to be the first name for them.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:02     Subject: Family pressure for son’s name
We gave my husband’s parents choice of second name, my parents choice of third name, and we chose the first name.
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:01     Subject: Family pressure for son’s name
Anonymous wrote:We are expecting a boy and my husbands family has this tradition where the first boy is named after the husband’s father. I come from a different culture and don’t follow this. I truly do not want to name my child after my father in law. My in laws are absolutely wonderful and i also don’t want to disappoint them. I am hesitant to reveal to them that we are having a boy. We haven’t even told them and the comments have started. I hate being put in this awkward position and I just don’t know how to handle it. I know it’s easy to say “ignore them, it’s your kid.” But I also want to make them happy with the decision.


New baby. New tradition. Can you use FIL's nane as a middle name?
Anonymous
Post 07/24/2021 20:00     Subject: Family pressure for son’s name
We are expecting a boy and my husbands family has this tradition where the first boy is named after the husband’s father. I come from a different culture and don’t follow this. I truly do not want to name my child after my father in law. My in laws are absolutely wonderful and i also don’t want to disappoint them. I am hesitant to reveal to them that we are having a boy. We haven’t even told them and the comments have started. I hate being put in this awkward position and I just don’t know how to handle it. I know it’s easy to say “ignore them, it’s your kid.” But I also want to make them happy with the decision.