How is your intimate life? Vegas is not just about gambling.

Anonymous wrote:3k? Geez I am low budget.

I don’t even know what it’ll cost. Flight, hotel, food, and whatever gambling costs… I’m sure there will be a peer pressure factor in going with friends.

I would let him go and also tell him you will be going on a girls trip when you are done nursing.

OP again. Do others’ husbands ask to do similar things when their wife is on maternity leave? Did I marry a jerk?

3k? Geez I am low budget.

It’s a stupid ask and his response since is not good.

I’m sorry op

Wow. You truly married a piece of trash. I’m really sorry. He sounds like my ex husband.

I would let him go. At some point I preferred to have some alone time to manage the babies as I pleased.

Anonymous wrote:What is the real issue here? You list a bunch of things, but what's the deepest one?

Is it the money?

Is it the crushing responsibility of a newborn + toddler?

Or is it just....anger that he is able to have an independent life in a way that you can't as a postpartum nursing mom?

Answer that question and then it will be clearer how to move forward.

I’m annoyed by all aspects of the above. But I think my top 2 are: money (can’t we put that $3k or whatever it’ll cost for that trip toward doing something nice as a family later on?) and the fact that I can’t have the freedom to just leave the newborn and do whatever the hell I want for a weekend right now. Not that I’d want to leave my baby right now, but I feel like he must not appreciate all the work I’m doing and don’t feel supported when he apparently thinks he should be able to do a Vegas trip right now.

Also- he went to Vegas 4 months ago for a leisure trip

Technically its only a weekend. Fly out late Friday night, come back early Sunday and be ready to parent 24/7 while you sleep Mon-Weds is how I would swing it.

But up to you.

LMAO Well, we know where his priorities are

What is the real issue here? You list a bunch of things, but what's the deepest one?

Is it the money?

Is it the crushing responsibility of a newborn + toddler?

Or is it just....anger that he is able to have an independent life in a way that you can't as a postpartum nursing mom?

Answer that question and then it will be clearer how to move forward.

Tell him he can go if he takes the 3.5 year old.

He is maybe not a jerk for asking on the off chance you get up to it, but definitely a jerk for his additude after. Not a chance would I have let DH go. I mean maybe if I had family in town who could help and the baby was super easy and the older kid was in full time daycare and it was a special occasion for his friends. But I was super overwhelmed when my second was a newborn and would not have wanted DH to leave me unless absolutely necessary.

Just had baby #2 and DH and I are at home on parental leave with a 3.5 year old and a 4-week old. A couple of DH’s friends are going to Vegas for a weekend in a month and he wants to join them. I said no and that it seems pretty selfish and now he is acting cold. Seriously, what gives? Should he be able to go to Vegas and stick me with a newborn who is nursing around the clock and a 3 year old? I don’t understand why he would even ask. I doubt he’d want me to go for a weekend with friends and leave him with a new baby and a preschooler…
Has anyone else ran in to this? Am I the jerk for not letting him go blow a bunch of $$ in Vegas with his buddies while we are on leave?