Anonymous wrote:How distant? In most states, it is legal to marry a second cousin, in Virginia, you can marry a first cousin. No law against an intimate relationship in either case.

see, this is why people make jokes about VA.

OP here - 3rd cousin

Show us on the chart where both of you are and we'll tell you if it's ok:

Relative as in related by blood. Just making sure it's not a brother of your SIL or something like that.

How distant? In most states, it is legal to marry a second cousin, in Virginia, you can marry a first cousin. No law against an intimate relationship in either case.

Details are important here. If you are first cousins, that's going to elicit a much different response than if you are second cousins once removed.

Distant relatives are fine from a genetic point of view, OP. Just don't broadcast the fact, because people are weird.

yes, define "distant"

4th cousins, maybe
2nd cousins, no

I mean it depends entirely on what "distant" means. Anything beyond first cousin seems ok, though I don't know, second cousin seems icky to me, too, but maybe just because I grew up with second cousins and my kids know a bunch (but not all) their second cousins.

Oh my goodness, this sounds like a V.C. Andrews novel! I am going to say no! Wouldn't you be embarrassed if colleagues or friends found it?

No, OP. There are billions of people on this planet. Stay away from relatives.

How distant are we talking about here? As long as it's legal wherever you are, I don't see a problem.

Need more details,how are you related?

How distant? Did you grow up with eachother?

Well, I haven’t yet. We are distant relatives both in our 40s, newly single. We don’t really have any other relatives who are alive or who we are in touch with. I always felt a strong connection to him and get along really well. I also feel there is some kind of sexual tension between us whenever we talk or meet. Should I give in….or its a no, no. WWYD?