I’m married and fantasize a lot about having sex with a crush who is half my age, a different race, and the same sex as me. So there’s that. Of course, it’s just a fantasy and will never actually happen.

Y

Ummmm ... yes, that is why it is called fantasizing!!

It’s ok to bascially fantasize about anything you want, within reason. It’s better if you can share them with your significant other.

Anonymous wrote:My mental grab-bag of X-rated fantasies is pretty extensive. So, no judgment here.

Same. I have never fantasized about somebody I know IRL when with DH but it doesn’t strike me as something I’d actively seek to avoid. Everybody needs to take precarious against affairs but that’s true regardless of what you think about during sex.

My mental grab-bag of X-rated fantasies is pretty extensive. So, no judgment here.

Anonymous wrote:It’s just one more step on the slippery slope to adultery, no harm in it at all. 🙄

Is this sarcasm? I know DCUMERS can be dramatic, but surely you jest?

Anonymous wrote:It’s just one more step on the slippery slope to adultery, no harm in it at all. 🙄

OK, President Carter.

Anonymous wrote:It’s just one more step on the slippery slope to adultery, no harm in it at all. 🙄

If you have no self control that is

It’s just one more step on the slippery slope to adultery, no harm in it at all. 🙄

Y- okay to fantasize. Just because you are married doesn’t mean you don’t think of others and fantasize. It’s harmless as a fantasy.
during the day, evenings, during when we are (uh, you know).

Do you have to ask? People do it all the time. It's just a fantasy and not real.

Celebrities - ok
Real people you know - seems a little unhealthy

I think it’s morally ok but that doesn’t mean it’s always a smart thing to do

Specifically him talking dirty to you because you find his voice very sexy?

Does the answer change it one or both of you are married?