Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:48     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Play it out the other way, OP. Assume the cousin means well and has no ill intentions. What might be some reasons she wouldn’t share this information about her kid? Make some guesses and share here


I'm guessing OP and her friends are snobby gossips. At least OP is.


Where did you get “snobby” from? I can see where you get gossips if they all share everything, including about their kids/and spouses, but you just pulled “snobby” out of the sky. Why?
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:47     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
I think a lot of people cannot learn empathy through nonbrutal methods. Maybe if OP’s cousin found out earlier and told the friends that OP was being cheated on or had lost her job when she was processing it and not sharing, then OP would learn that people’s business is their business, particularly regarding the health of their children. But maybe it wouldn’t work.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:35     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
Anonymous wrote:Play it out the other way, OP. Assume the cousin means well and has no ill intentions. What might be some reasons she wouldn’t share this information about her kid? Make some guesses and share here


I'm guessing OP and her friends are snobby gossips. At least OP is.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:34     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
Play it out the other way, OP. Assume the cousin means well and has no ill intentions. What might be some reasons she wouldn’t share this information about her kid? Make some guesses and share here
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:32     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
Anonymous wrote:My cousin lives local to me. We went to the same college, and share a friend group. Four of us FaceTime every weekend, and frequently text.

She constantly omits details of her life. Everyone talks about what’s going on with kids and everything. I happen to know her daughter has scoliosis and is getting a back brace. But she just says everything is fine. This is just one example. It puts me in an awkward position where I know everyone shares and is being honest, and she acts like things are fine even when they are not.

Do I ask her why? Prompt a deeper conversation?


Why?
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:32     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
I never write this but - MYOB
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:31     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t consider these friends to be as close as you perceive them to be?


But she lies. They ask how Larla is, and she lies and says she’s doing great.


Youre a horrible person.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:31     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
How do you know that everyone is sharing everything and being honest?
Why are you trying to manage this?
What exactly is awkward about this for you? Are you so immature that you’re unable to process someone not sharing information you already have?
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:31     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t consider these friends to be as close as you perceive them to be?


But she lies. They ask how Larla is, and she lies and says she’s doing great.


You just suck. Man.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:30     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
Anonymous wrote:She doesn’t consider these friends to be as close as you perceive them to be?


But she lies. They ask how Larla is, and she lies and says she’s doing great.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:29     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
Omg back down. Maybe she is giving her child privacy. Maybe she doesnt believe in talking about them to others. This is SO not your business.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:28     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
Anonymous wrote:My cousin lives local to me. We went to the same college, and share a friend group. Four of us FaceTime every weekend, and frequently text.

She constantly omits details of her life. Everyone talks about what’s going on with kids and everything. I happen to know her daughter has scoliosis and is getting a back brace. But she just says everything is fine. This is just one example. It puts me in an awkward position where I know everyone shares and is being honest, and she acts like things are fine even when they are not.

Do I ask her why? Prompt a deeper conversation?


It puts you in no awkward position whatsoever. You want to gossip and chitchat with third parties about HER child and her experiences. You are amazingly immature. I’d say grow up, but that’s obviously not going to happen.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:28     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
She doesn’t consider these friends to be as close as you perceive them to be?
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:25     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
It’s her dd’s story. I’m not sure why you think she owes this information to the friend group.
Anonymous
Post 07/03/2021 14:09     Subject: My cousin doesn’t confide in our shared friends
My cousin lives local to me. We went to the same college, and share a friend group. Four of us FaceTime every weekend, and frequently text.

She constantly omits details of her life. Everyone talks about what’s going on with kids and everything. I happen to know her daughter has scoliosis and is getting a back brace. But she just says everything is fine. This is just one example. It puts me in an awkward position where I know everyone shares and is being honest, and she acts like things are fine even when they are not.

Do I ask her why? Prompt a deeper conversation?