Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:55     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
Anonymous wrote:I’ve been married 20 years. I think we spent about 15K which was a lot for us. In retrospect, it seems a little silly. We never see most of the friends (even wedding party) anymore. The dress I obsessed over was just a fancy white dress like so many others I’ve seen over the years. All that money spent on flowers…did anyone care? I just went to a young relative’s wedding and I’m really surprised people are still doing so much of what we did 20 years ago. The younger generation was changed so much….it seems like people are very big into “I’m doing it my way” but it’s still mostly all the standard wedding stuff but with some little twist like cookies instead of cake or dog ringbearers or weird instructions on what the guests should wear (festive beach or something inscrutable like that).


and you care why?

and you think you're the first 40 something who has judged a 20 something?

let people be
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:52     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
I had a big wedding, 60-70k, about 25k out of our pockets. My family had had multiple tragedies, we needed a celebration. It was excessive and cost too much and it was one of the best days of my life and I don’t regret it at all. We’re don’t have much time on this rock, never going to regret a happy celebration
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:49     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
I’ve been married 20 years. I think we spent about 15K which was a lot for us. In retrospect, it seems a little silly. We never see most of the friends (even wedding party) anymore. The dress I obsessed over was just a fancy white dress like so many others I’ve seen over the years. All that money spent on flowers…did anyone care? I just went to a young relative’s wedding and I’m really surprised people are still doing so much of what we did 20 years ago. The younger generation was changed so much….it seems like people are very big into “I’m doing it my way” but it’s still mostly all the standard wedding stuff but with some little twist like cookies instead of cake or dog ringbearers or weird instructions on what the guests should wear (festive beach or something inscrutable like that).
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:47     Subject: Re:Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
Anonymous wrote:Because they have the money. Some people (or their parents) have more than they know what to do with.


Not always. I’ve had friends throw ‘mid-sized’ 40K weddings only to end up in rentals post-marriage. It’s idiocy.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:39     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
Anonymous wrote:Ugh I did. I wish I didn’t. I’m so embarrassed by it. But it’s over. My DH loved it. My parents loved it.


Define "big." I spent an average of maybe $50-$60k on each daughter's wedding. Is that considered big? It seemed like money well spent. They were happy.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:35     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
Ugh I did. I wish I didn’t. I’m so embarrassed by it. But it’s over. My DH loved it. My parents loved it.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:22     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
I had a small modest wedding. I hope DD goes ALL OUT. With any luck you look back fondly at your wedding forever. And we still do even though it was modest but I hardly fault people wanting a big elaborate event.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:13     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
What a waste of money…
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:06     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
Anonymous wrote:I’m watching friends who had nice smaller covid weddings have vow renewals and expensive second weddings.

Why?


If you really were a friend you wouldn't be so judgey
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:03     Subject: Re:Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
My wedding cost 100k. I’m usually very practical and frugal but I just wanted to feel like a princess for a day.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:03     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
Anonymous wrote:Because they want their family & friends to have a memorable experience celebrating with them. Even if you don’t agree with it, it’s not that difficult of a concept to understand.


+1 I’m having a large celebration post-Covid wedding. AMA. (But seriously above response is it.)
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 23:01     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
Because they want their family & friends to have a memorable experience celebrating with them. Even if you don’t agree with it, it’s not that difficult of a concept to understand.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 22:59     Subject: Re:Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
Why do people buy luxury cars?

Why do people buy expensive jewelry?

Why do people go to fancy restaurants?

Why do people pay for private school?

Etc.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 22:54     Subject: Re:Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
Because they have the money. Some people (or their parents) have more than they know what to do with.
Anonymous
Post 06/14/2021 22:50     Subject: Why do people spend so much money on weddings?
I’m watching friends who had nice smaller covid weddings have vow renewals and expensive second weddings.

Why?