I once walked in on a male co-worker consoling a female co-worker who didn't get along with some of the other women we worked with. He was telling her that the other women were just jealous because she is so pretty. She was very pretty, no doubt about it. But, the reason some of the other women in the office didn't like her was because she also happened to be a bitch. I thought the male co-worker's take on it was amusing. He was gay so he wasn't hitting on her; just trying to make her feel better. I think that most women, like men, are attracted to attractiveness. And most healthy people are attracted to happiness. So, IMO, the whole "don't hate me because I'm beautiful" thing is overblown.

I am a person women, but also a lot of men, tend to not like. I never got it. Then one day a friend with whom I got off to a rocky start told me that when he first met me he thought I was a bitch. But, once he got to know me he realized I was actually really nice. I'm a pretty shy person around people I don't know. It takes me a while to warm up and not feel awkward around people. People interpret my resulting aloofness as me being stuck-up or bitchy or whatever. My sister has run into the same problem and been told the same thing. If there's one thing this taught me it's that first impressions really aren't the best thing on which to base your feelings about a person. Unfortunately, I think a lot of people do this. I figure, if you're a good person, a nice person, a good friend, etc. then it's their loss. People who get to know you will like you if you are overall a good person who is interesting and fun to be around, and those are the friends worth keeping. If you really just are a pill, then maybe you should take work on the character flaws that lead people to hate you. Or, if you don't care, then be who you are and be happy being hated. I will say though that anyone who thinks people hate them because they are beautiful, smart, talented, etc. is probably really conceited and full of themselves, and that's why people don't like them. There's a difference between confident and cocky, and being cocky definitely doesn't make people like a person.

Jealous

Anonymous wrote:Some women, I don't think hate me, but seem to be hostile, when they realize that I have a really happy marriage, that I am really happy with what I have (it ain't much) and that I am generally content with the day to day, I like my body even though it is a little round and stretched, etc.

People who are generally malcontents do not like to be around people who are content. Simple as that. I do not run around like a blathering, happy idiot, but there is sometimes a push back when you are not as miserable as others....and sometimes it seems that it is easy to be (miserable) in this city!

I have to agree with this and have noticed the same thing! A content person is Kryptonite to someone who is miserable.

Okay...the posters who are claiming their gorgeous looks, amazing brains and fantastic success at work (or positive attitude) are why you're disliked...it's not. There is something else about you - whether it's a sense of cockiness, superiority, a really unpleasant odor, who knows. But I have known and worked with many gorgeous, brilliant, successful, friendly women who are universally liked, not universally hated. It's probably a lot more about your attitude than you care to admit.

And for the hot smart successful one whose MALE boss confirmed for her that all the other women were jealous...that's pretty funny. Where do you think he was trying to go with that?

oh, for sure. what's not to hate?

Anonymous wrote:oh yeah!! I've lost jobs because of other women being jealous of me and hating me.
I never knew that the combination of beauty, intelligence and positive attitude could get one in trouble...

It can't.

oh yeah!! I've lost jobs because of other women being jealous of me and hating me.
I never knew that the combination of beauty, intelligence and positive attitude could get one in trouble...

Some women, I don't think hate me, but seem to be hostile, when they realize that I have a really happy marriage, that I am really happy with what I have (it ain't much) and that I am generally content with the day to day, I like my body even though it is a little round and stretched, etc.

People who are generally malcontents do not like to be around people who are content. Simple as that. I do not run around like a blathering, happy idiot, but there is sometimes a push back when you are not as miserable as others....and sometimes it seems that it is easy to be (miserable) in this city!

Don't really know, don't really care. I don't hate me, that's all that's important.

Hmmm. I am tempted not to respond to this becaus I wonder if you are a troll or even THE troll (sock puppeteer) but OK I'll bite:

When I was younger I was very attractive. And smart too. I was kicking ass at work. And yes the women there HATED me. They were threatened and jealous. Even my former supervisor (a male) acknowledges that this was 90% of their problem.

I know I'm not perfect and not everybody is going to like me..... but yes, I have repeatedly found that women are threatened by me.

Now that I am getting older, heavier, and wrinkly, I am finding the problem is going away too.

I'm very beautiful, and most women hate me.

Haha, just kidding. I'm okay looking and most women do not hate me!

What a stupid thread.

I'm a woman.

Some women might think I'm boring, annoying, judgmental and such; after all diff'rent strokes for diff'rent folks. But I don't think I come across as being hateful.

I don't think I am hateful.

Anonymously yours,
Boring, Maybe; Hateful, No.

Are you asking women or men?

Are you someone women hate? Why or why not?