Anonymous
Post 05/30/2021 20:14     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Please don’t sit with these types. Everyone will assume it’s you.


Record them on FB Live. They will never do that again.


This.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2021 20:06     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
RantingSoccerDad wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened two times with my kids’ teams. Once moms talking and joking about girl players’ bodies, and once dads talking about “the aggressive culture” of a non white player. These comments were made within earshot of players, and I reported them to the league both times. No regrets.


Did the league do anything? After a tournament game I reffed in the fall, I informed one club's league that the coach had told me she didn't care if her players hurt the other team. (U-10, folks.) Never heard a word in response.


Well at least she was honest. Wouldn't make it in politics though.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2021 19:41     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
Anonymous wrote:Overheard her loudly saying negative things about kids - including one on her own child's team - on the sidelines to her friend within earshot of the other parents and possibly the players in the wings. The person she was speaking with seemed to cringe, and I was worried the parent of the child she was criticizing was actually right behind her. I was embarrassed for everyone, but didn't want to make a scene but now I'm regretting not telling her to shut her mouth.

Why do people do this?



Just ignore. It is her own insecurities at play. Why do you care so much? Was she talking about your player?
SoccerRef
Post 05/30/2021 11:34     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
RantingSoccerDad wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
RantingSoccerDad wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened two times with my kids’ teams. Once moms talking and joking about girl players’ bodies, and once dads talking about “the aggressive culture” of a non white player. These comments were made within earshot of players, and I reported them to the league both times. No regrets.


Did the league do anything? After a tournament game I reffed in the fall, I informed one club's league that the coach had told me she didn't care if her players hurt the other team. (U-10, folks.) Never heard a word in response.


Rather than complaining to the league, you should have used cards and sent off a couple of players, if they targeted the opposing team players. I frequently see dangerous play unpunished by refs and the only time I see refs show red is for dissent. I know they are young kids, but you can warn them and if they keep doing it, you should teach them a lesson.


I should've carded one player. The parents would've killed me, so you'd be reading this from my ghost, but I agree.

The coach didn't say one word until after the game, when she berated me for all the fouls I'd called. Clever, I suppose. Wait until after the game so you don't get tossed.


You can toss a player or a coach after the game as well. Won’t change the game that just ended, but hopefully it’ll mean a suspension in future games.

Edit. Whoops, saw someone already responded similarly. Oh well.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2021 10:57     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
You guys complain and talk about anything.
Anonymous
Post 05/30/2021 10:13     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
RantingSoccerDad wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
RantingSoccerDad wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened two times with my kids’ teams. Once moms talking and joking about girl players’ bodies, and once dads talking about “the aggressive culture” of a non white player. These comments were made within earshot of players, and I reported them to the league both times. No regrets.


Did the league do anything? After a tournament game I reffed in the fall, I informed one club's league that the coach had told me she didn't care if her players hurt the other team. (U-10, folks.) Never heard a word in response.


Rather than complaining to the league, you should have used cards and sent off a couple of players, if they targeted the opposing team players. I frequently see dangerous play unpunished by refs and the only time I see refs show red is for dissent. I know they are young kids, but you can warn them and if they keep doing it, you should teach them a lesson.


I should've carded one player. The parents would've killed me, so you'd be reading this from my ghost, but I agree.

The coach didn't say one word until after the game, when she berated me for all the fouls I'd called. Clever, I suppose. Wait until after the game so you don't get tossed.


A coach, player or parent can definitely be punished for actions toward a referee before, during or after a game. That’s why there’s a game report to be completed by the referee. It wouldn’t make a difference in the completed game but can for future games, as the reports are reviewed by the league R&D and communicated directly to the clubs. If the actions are serious enough, the individual will be brought in front of the state committee and face severe penalties.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2021 22:07     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
RantingSoccerDad wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
RantingSoccerDad wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened two times with my kids’ teams. Once moms talking and joking about girl players’ bodies, and once dads talking about “the aggressive culture” of a non white player. These comments were made within earshot of players, and I reported them to the league both times. No regrets.


Did the league do anything? After a tournament game I reffed in the fall, I informed one club's league that the coach had told me she didn't care if her players hurt the other team. (U-10, folks.) Never heard a word in response.


Rather than complaining to the league, you should have used cards and sent off a couple of players, if they targeted the opposing team players. I frequently see dangerous play unpunished by refs and the only time I see refs show red is for dissent. I know they are young kids, but you can warn them and if they keep doing it, you should teach them a lesson.


I should've carded one player. The parents would've killed me, so you'd be reading this from my ghost, but I agree.

The coach didn't say one word until after the game, when she berated me for all the fouls I'd called. Clever, I suppose. Wait until after the game so you don't get tossed.


Well what would you prefer? She call you out during the match or take it up with you afterward. And you can still toss someone after the match.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2021 16:21     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
RantingSoccerDad wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened two times with my kids’ teams. Once moms talking and joking about girl players’ bodies, and once dads talking about “the aggressive culture” of a non white player. These comments were made within earshot of players, and I reported them to the league both times. No regrets.


Did the league do anything? After a tournament game I reffed in the fall, I informed one club's league that the coach had told me she didn't care if her players hurt the other team. (U-10, folks.) Never heard a word in response.


I don’t know in the latter case (I received an assurance that it would be dealt with), but in the first case there was a stern warning from the league to the parents on the team, possibly with the coach as intermediary.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2021 16:13     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
RantingSoccerDad wrote:
Anonymous wrote:This happened two times with my kids’ teams. Once moms talking and joking about girl players’ bodies, and once dads talking about “the aggressive culture” of a non white player. These comments were made within earshot of players, and I reported them to the league both times. No regrets.


Did the league do anything? After a tournament game I reffed in the fall, I informed one club's league that the coach had told me she didn't care if her players hurt the other team. (U-10, folks.) Never heard a word in response.


Rather than complaining to the league, you should have used cards and sent off a couple of players, if they targeted the opposing team players. I frequently see dangerous play unpunished by refs and the only time I see refs show red is for dissent. I know they are young kids, but you can warn them and if they keep doing it, you should teach them a lesson.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2021 15:54     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
You can’t control what comes out of someone else’s mouth. It’s part of life.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2021 15:51     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
This happened two times with my kids’ teams. Once moms talking and joking about girl players’ bodies, and once dads talking about “the aggressive culture” of a non white player. These comments were made within earshot of players, and I reported them to the league both times. No regrets.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2021 15:44     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
Anonymous wrote:Please don’t sit with these types. Everyone will assume it’s you.


Record them on FB Live. They will never do that again.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2021 15:31     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
Please don’t sit with these types. Everyone will assume it’s you.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2021 15:27     Subject: Re:Trash talking mom at tournament
I don’t know! I have an acquaintance who often sits next to me and does things like this. I try to avoid her and if it’s really bad respond, but mostly I cringe and change the subject.
Anonymous
Post 05/29/2021 15:23     Subject: Trash talking mom at tournament
Overheard her loudly saying negative things about kids - including one on her own child's team - on the sidelines to her friend within earshot of the other parents and possibly the players in the wings. The person she was speaking with seemed to cringe, and I was worried the parent of the child she was criticizing was actually right behind her. I was embarrassed for everyone, but didn't want to make a scene but now I'm regretting not telling her to shut her mouth.

Why do people do this?