Anonymous wrote:Unfortunately, I had a few ONS and AP. They all had different body types. Different color hair, skin tone, some were married, etc. The common theme with all of them is they just wanted to F.

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Anonymous wrote:I actually think OP's point was to start some common types -- the guy who grooms you by being your pal, the guy who is a military person, etc.

I'll add -- my cheater worked in an industry known for helping others. He used this as a cover. Anyone working on these issues is assumed to be a "good guy". In fact, he was a bad guy and was doing some things in his personal life that were a direct contradiction to his public life. An "out" public example of this is Eric Schneiderman, who publicly fought against domestic violence and privately physically abused his GF. So, this exercise is kind of a warning to others -- be careful and don't make assumptions.

Yes, probably the majority of military guys might make good partners, but for some, it is definitely a "good guy" cover.

More married men "groom" women for an affair by first being a supportive friend than one would suppose. As a woman you should always be smart, yes give a man the assumption that he is a "good" guy but also listen to your instincts and learn to recognize certain signs.

In my case a "nice" married man became my friend over a long period of casual talks at school events, which led to friendly, once a week walks in Rock Creek Park, and the occasional coffee. Then one day my "friend" leaned in and pulled me close,,, The whole grooming was so gradual that I failed to notice when someone I had previously not even been physically attracted to had become a man I had a hard time resisting.

I have no doubt he had done it before and has certainly gone on to "cultivate" women in the same way again. In that case, his spouse worked for abroad for her government, so he was away from her for long periods. Much like military separations I suppose.

Anonymous wrote:I actually think OP's point was to start some common types -- the guy who grooms you by being your pal, the guy who is a military person, etc.

I'll add -- my cheater worked in an industry known for helping others. He used this as a cover. Anyone working on these issues is assumed to be a "good guy". In fact, he was a bad guy and was doing some things in his personal life that were a direct contradiction to his public life. An "out" public example of this is Eric Schneiderman, who publicly fought against domestic violence and privately physically abused his GF. So, this exercise is kind of a warning to others -- be careful and don't make assumptions.

Yes, probably the majority of military guys might make good partners, but for some, it is definitely a "good guy" cover.

Anonymous wrote:Older, friendly, sometimes lives locally, armed services background. Gently cultivates platonic friendship with affair as the ultimate goal. Be forewarned, proceed with caution.

(Could be woman or man, partnered or married, gay or straight.)

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Anonymous wrote:huh?

I interpreted the original post to be an invitation for others to post vague descriptions of married or partnered cheaters they have encountered without necessarily outing the person.

Thus the original poster described the cheater they encountered as someone who was "older" and "friendly", and someone who "sometimes lives locally" and possessed an "armed services background". They also state that the modus operandi of the cheater is to "gently cultivate a platonic friendship" with designs on a sexual "affair". But, so as not to out them, omitted information about the gender of the individual, their partnered status, or whether it is a heterosexual or same-sex relationship.

I agree that it is too vague an exercise to be much fun. The description is so broad as to be applicable to hundreds of thousands locally. If you want to hold a cheater's feet to the fire then there has to be some heat.

Anonymous wrote:huh?