Anonymous
05/25/2021 15:03
Subject: Re:Resetting team dynamics
Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.
I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.
OMG ITS A COMPETITIVE ENVIRONMENT !!!!! You dont get it, he's picking on your player because he wants his starting spot ! Yes you want starters and non starters. It teaches them to compete for a spot. It teaches them that they have to work hard to earn and keep their spot. It should leave a player with bad feelings however its up to you to teach your player they need to work hard and compete.
The kids are still pretty young, and he's not on world's most competitive team. But you do you. Doesn't seem like this other kid's parents (who actually seem like really nice people) have the ability to enforce what you are suggesting.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 14:58
Subject: Re:Resetting team dynamics
Anonymous wrote:Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.
I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.
OMG ITS A COMPETITIVE ENVIRONMENT !!!!! You dont get it, he's picking on your player because he wants his starting spot ! Yes you want starters and non starters. It teaches them to compete for a spot. It teaches them that they have to work hard to earn and keep their spot. It should leave a player with bad feelings however its up to you to teach your player they need to work hard and compete.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 14:51
Subject: Re:Resetting team dynamics
Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.
I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.
Imagine if your son was not a starter and the kid picking on him was a starter.
I don't know if it would make a difference to him (a lot of the comments are directed at the fact that he has a learning disability, rather than soccer), but to me it would be worse, yes.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 14:42
Subject: Resetting team dynamics
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, can you describe the behavioral issues in more detail? Is the player a jerk to teammates, trash talks other teams' players and parents, is a deliberately dirty player on the field, or has a condition that can't be helped?
If its your best player you work around it. If its anyone else you isolated them at training make them work by themselves or run extra laps until the conform to team culture.
Trolls going to troll.
Having kids run laps for misbehavior is pretty common.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 14:34
Subject: Re:Resetting team dynamics
Anonymous wrote:Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.
I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.
Imagine if your son was not a starter and the kid picking on him was a starter.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 13:47
Subject: Re:Resetting team dynamics
Anonymous wrote:The most effective thing I’ve seen a coach do tell players that if they witness inappropriate behavior by anyone, that player will not start the next game and will get reduced playing time. The first game after our coach laid that down, one kid who happened to be one of the star players kept up the behavior. Sure enough, coach benched them for the first ten minutes of the next game. Never happened again.
My kid reported a bullying incident but he was the one that got punished by being benched for an entire game (the bully was the coach--we reported it to the club administration).
We left Bethesda after that.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 13:37
Subject: Re:Resetting team dynamics
The most effective thing I’ve seen a coach do tell players that if they witness inappropriate behavior by anyone, that player will not start the next game and will get reduced playing time. The first game after our coach laid that down, one kid who happened to be one of the star players kept up the behavior. Sure enough, coach benched them for the first ten minutes of the next game. Never happened again.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 13:34
Subject: Re:Resetting team dynamics
Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.
I don't agree. My son starts. The non-starting kid for his position has been picking on him relentlessly all year. By having a starter and a non-starter, it creates bad feelings and resentment.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 13:32
Subject: Resetting team dynamics
Team dynamics are formed by who starts. If a problem player starts it tells the team the coach is okay with the behavior. If the player sits, it tell the other players a lot.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 13:19
Subject: Resetting team dynamics
Coach should talk to the parent and be very specific about behaviors that are not allowed on the team.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 12:24
Subject: Resetting team dynamics
Anonymous wrote:Anonymous wrote:OP, can you describe the behavioral issues in more detail? Is the player a jerk to teammates, trash talks other teams' players and parents, is a deliberately dirty player on the field, or has a condition that can't be helped?
If its your best player you work around it. If its anyone else you isolated them at training make them work by themselves or run extra laps until the conform to team culture.
Trolls going to troll.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 11:58
Subject: Resetting team dynamics
Anonymous wrote:OP, can you describe the behavioral issues in more detail? Is the player a jerk to teammates, trash talks other teams' players and parents, is a deliberately dirty player on the field, or has a condition that can't be helped?
If its your best player you work around it. If its anyone else you isolated them at training make them work by themselves or run extra laps until the conform to team culture.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 11:45
Subject: Resetting team dynamics
OP, can you describe the behavioral issues in more detail? Is the player a jerk to teammates, trash talks other teams' players and parents, is a deliberately dirty player on the field, or has a condition that can't be helped?
Anonymous
05/25/2021 11:02
Subject: Resetting team dynamics
Anonymous wrote:On a team that has a talented player with behavioral issues what are some effective and appropriate ways to reset the team dynamic for a new season ?
The coach should warn, bench or suspend the player if the player misbehaves, but very few coaches do it.
Anonymous
05/25/2021 10:48
Subject: Resetting team dynamics
On a team that has a talented player with behavioral issues what are some effective and appropriate ways to reset the team dynamic for a new season ?