Anonymous wrote:I’m in the same boat, OP. I don’t think there is any returning to who he used to be. Invasion of the Brain Snatchers. He’s completely brainwashed.

+1 - I started one of these threads previously. Divorce may be in the cards because we are just coming at the world from such different places, but I am still holding out hope that we can somehow regain or return to what we had/were.

But I think I am probably kidding myself - he sympathizes with Kyle Rittenhouse, took up the "George Floyd died of something else" talking point (despite being as horrified as I was when the video of Floyd's murder came out) and recently said next time the Capitol was stormed "we" wouldn't make the mistake of not bringing guns - meaning he included himself with the Capitol rioters.

When I write that out it is so horrible, but it's also so incredibly hard to square with the person I married and had two children with. It does not help that my own parents, who brought my sibling and I up without a word of prejudice, sexism, etc. in their home, and who would not have stood for my sibling or I saying racist, sexist, etc. stuff voted for Trump, likely twice. I am not some super liberal or progressive. I voted for George W. Bush twice, but Trump was a hard, hard break for me.

I feel like people I have known for 20+ years or even my whole life are strangers.

Anonymous wrote:I fear his obsession and irrational thoughts are driving us apart! I’ve noticed his circle of friends is getting smaller and smaller also. He will try and talk to me about this crap but I completely ignore him or just leave the room. When we go out with friends I have to listen to the same stupid conspiracy stories over and over again. It’s gotten to the point I don’t want to go out with another couple because I’m trapped listening to him rambling about politics! Now he’s talking about taking a vacation with another couple who are just as hardcore as he is and there is no way I can handle a week of this! I’m so sad that our relationship has evolved to this. I feel he would be in heaven if he was with a woman who is equally as nutty ...

I'm not one of the people (and there are plenty) on DCUM who automatically jump to "divorce him" in every post, but this seriously would be a dealbreaker for me. I'm so sick of this childish "all roads lead to the top of the mountain" thinking where people want us to pretend that their pretend "facts" are real so we don't hurt their widdle feelings. In 2021, just as in the 60s, there is a right side and a wrong side of history. Period.

Especially, as he's a DCUM husband, he's very likely not low IQ, stuck in some backwater with his family of origin with no access to facts, uneducated -- the things that can make this kind of behavior, if not excusable, at least more understandable. I could not continue to live with (and raise kids with?) someone I couldn't respect.

And no matter what you do, say hell no to the vacation!

He sounds fun.

I’m in the same boat, OP. I don’t think there is any returning to who he used to be. Invasion of the Brain Snatchers. He’s completely brainwashed.

Time for a separation. Tell him you will talk after he has been deprogrammed.

That would be a deal-breaker for me. Good luck.

DTMFA. And yes, I'm serious.

Anonymous wrote:I fear his obsession and irrational thoughts are driving us apart! I’ve noticed his circle of friends is getting smaller and smaller also. He will try and talk to me about this crap but I completely ignore him or just leave the room. When we go out with friends I have to listen to the same stupid conspiracy stories over and over again. It’s gotten to the point I don’t want to go out with another couple because I’m trapped listening to him rambling about politics! Now he’s talking about taking a vacation with another couple who are just as hardcore as he is and there is no way I can handle a week of this! I’m so sad that our relationship has evolved to this. I feel he would be in heaven if he was with a woman who is equally as nutty ...

Why in the world would you even consider going? Send him on vacation with them, alone. Maybe they will introduce him to a likeminded friend.

Have you pointed out to him how small his world has become and why? If he is OK with that then you have to decide if you are OK with him and the bubble he is creating and whether you want to live in it with him.

Anonymous wrote:Is this new, or has it been going on for the past 5 years?

Or even the past 8 years before that?

Is this new, or has it been going on for the past 5 years?

He needs to grow up. His side lost.

Have you suggested counseling?

I would definitely get a divorce.

I fear his obsession and irrational thoughts are driving us apart! I’ve noticed his circle of friends is getting smaller and smaller also. He will try and talk to me about this crap but I completely ignore him or just leave the room. When we go out with friends I have to listen to the same stupid conspiracy stories over and over again. It’s gotten to the point I don’t want to go out with another couple because I’m trapped listening to him rambling about politics! Now he’s talking about taking a vacation with another couple who are just as hardcore as he is and there is no way I can handle a week of this! I’m so sad that our relationship has evolved to this. I feel he would be in heaven if he was with a woman who is equally as nutty ...