I wouldn’t care if you can afford it. Though I think you should spend this time with child and outsource for other things.

I’m not being rude but why do you need a night nanny and day nanny for one newborn? That seems like a lot of help and little time you’re spending with your baby. That time goes by so fast. I would do one or the other. Cherish this time.

When my two were babies I would have probably judged you for having so much help, but ONLY because deep down I would have been super jealous that the baby stage was easier than you (or heck, anybody) because I was so sleep deprived and a mess because of it. Looking back, I wish I had asked for more help (we didn’t have money to hire anyone, but asked relatives to come hold the baby more so I could rest).

So here’s the thing—hire your nanny’s. Don’t brag about them. Be a good person to others who don’t have the resources you do. If they judge you, just don’t care.

Call these people doulas and then you will look fancy and nobody will judge you.
Seriously, though, if you want that much help...why not hire a doula?

Don’t tell them. How else would they know?

People will judge you for all sorts of things. This mantra can help: "Other people's opinions of me are none of my business." Carry on with your life.

Who cares? In some cultures it is normal for people to have a night nanny for the first few months, or a relative that serves as a night nanny.

So long as you can afford it, who cares? You're a grown adult with a family and you alone are responsible for the decisions you make. There is a reason like people hang out with like people, you know.

You can't stop them from judging you. Accept it will happen, tho some people may surprise you.

Then go what is right for you. What others think doesn't matter.

Anonymous wrote:I’m considering hiring a night nanny and a PT nanny. I have one newborn child. I could use the help but I’m nervous about people judging me for hiring help. I don’t want to my friends/family to silently judge me and think I’m a bad mom. Any tips and advice to get over it or not let nay judgement bother me?

They will judge you but if you want to do this, stop caring or don't tell them!

Do what’s best for you . I’m a nanny and I hear all the time from my employers friends how they wish they had a “. Insert my name “‘ nanny. Nothing to be embarrassed about. They probably want one to but don’t want to pay for one.

Why do you think they have to know? I don’t announce everything I do.

Good for you. You need help, that’s fine. Stop caring what other people think.

Stop caring.

I’m considering hiring a night nanny and a PT nanny. I have one newborn child. I could use the help but I’m nervous about people judging me for hiring help. I don’t want to my friends/family to silently judge me and think I’m a bad mom. Any tips and advice to get over it or not let nay judgement bother me?