Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want your kids to play on the best possible team over friends?

OP here. Yes. I want to make sure the kids play on the best team. That’s why I would want to know who is on it before agreeing to accept the offer.

Then just talk to the parents of the other good kids. I'm sure they will share.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want your kids to play on the best possible team over friends?

OP here. Yes. I want to make sure the kids play on the best team. That’s why I would want to know who is on it before agreeing to accept the offer.

Not always. For some, we recognize that our kids aren't going to be super amazing and the social aspect is important. There are also some kids and parents that are toxic that we just want to avoid.

We ask the question. For whatever team my child is trying out for, we always have an open dialogue with the coach. Most coaches are willing to chat if you are extremely nice and understanding of their predicament. This time of year has to be hell for them.

Our group of VYS girls parents are very close and always has a group text going with offer status.

This is a fair question. For the folks who understand that their kid is not "little Messi," no matter what your private trainer says, the social component is either first or second priority.

A few years ago one of my sons was playing on a local club's B-team. It was a pretty solid team that he had enjoyed playing with. When offers came out, I just sent out an email to the other parents on the team asking if they wouldn't mind sharing what offer they got and what they planned to do. In that email I included that information for us (B-team offer, intended to stay). About 80% replied, so we had a good idea of what was happening and I think that made everyone feel a bit better about coming back.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t you want your kids to play on the best possible team over friends?

OP here. Yes. I want to make sure the kids play on the best team. That’s why I would want to know who is on it before agreeing to accept the offer.

Don’t you want your kids to play on the best possible team over friends?

You need to just ask around. For the past two years DD's teammate's parents text each other when the offers are out. There were a few each year who left the team with some going up and some going down. It's sad.

The club probably doesn't know who is fully on the team at that time.

Some of us are still waiting to hear from our respective clubs...

Some of us are still waiting to hear from our respective clubs...

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t it be nice to know who else is on the team before having to accept? Certainly would make a big difference in our decision making. Both people we hope to see and people we really hope not to see.

You smell of insecurity from miles away. I definitely Dont want your kid on my team

I am sure the feeling is mutual, because your kid’s judgment is probably rotten if that is the inference you draw from the post. Quite the opposite.

That's why you talk to the parents on the sideline. Share a little with them, treat them like a normal human being, and they may clue you in.

Anonymous wrote:Wouldn’t it be nice to know who else is on the team before having to accept? Certainly would make a big difference in our decision making. Both people we hope to see and people we really hope not to see.

You smell of insecurity from miles away. I definitely Dont want your kid on my team

Wouldn’t it be nice to know who else is on the team before having to accept? Certainly would make a big difference in our decision making. Both people we hope to see and people we really hope not to see.