Anonymous
05/16/2021 23:09
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
I feel for you, OP!
My mother could not go to bed if she knew I was out of the house, and I can't go to bed either when DS is out...
You are not alone
My mother could not go to bed if she knew I was out of the house, and I can't go to bed either when DS is out...
You are not alone
Anonymous
05/16/2021 23:05
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
Will try the later hours weekends for daughter. Thanks for insight. She’s been great just loving her nights out.
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:58
Subject: Re:College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
Anonymous wrote:You need to train yourself to sleep when he’s not home. Devise a system where he turns off a hall light or something you can see from your bed when he gets home. You’ll get used to it, OP.
Your nearly grown son is learning to self-regulate and trust himself to make time management decisions.
I think this is the answer, OP. I think a lot of parents have trouble sleeping when college-age children are out!
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:55
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
Anonymous wrote:Ugh my parents did this. After I graduated high school they moved 45min from all my friends. So it was harder to meet up with people and I’d have to leave early to get home before midnight. I did all my chores, was good at school, had a great internship and was a loving daughter. Why the hell couldn’t I stay out past midnight? Or at least Thursday, Friday and Saturday’s until one or two.
Just let it go. Get medicated for your anxiety if you can’t sleep without kids home. Realize you likely only have a few more years until your kids are gone forever and won’t come home summers.
Also wanted to say that if there was a party or get together I wanted to attend, but knew it would run past midnight, I would stay with friends. It was less safe than coming home. Sometimes I didn’t really have a place to stay.
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:54
Subject: Re:College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
You need to train yourself to sleep when he’s not home. Devise a system where he turns off a hall light or something you can see from your bed when he gets home. You’ll get used to it, OP.
Your nearly grown son is learning to self-regulate and trust himself to make time management decisions.
Your nearly grown son is learning to self-regulate and trust himself to make time management decisions.
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:54
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
Ugh my parents did this. After I graduated high school they moved 45min from all my friends. So it was harder to meet up with people and I’d have to leave early to get home before midnight. I did all my chores, was good at school, had a great internship and was a loving daughter. Why the hell couldn’t I stay out past midnight? Or at least Thursday, Friday and Saturday’s until one or two.
Just let it go. Get medicated for your anxiety if you can’t sleep without kids home. Realize you likely only have a few more years until your kids are gone forever and won’t come home summers.
Just let it go. Get medicated for your anxiety if you can’t sleep without kids home. Realize you likely only have a few more years until your kids are gone forever and won’t come home summers.
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:47
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
How many days does this happen? If he stayed at a friend's house instead, would you still be unable to sleep? Does your kid have a job during the week?
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:45
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
Geeze - I’m so happy that my college kid who had a really difficult year with Covid is able to go out and have fun again. Ask them to wake you when they get home.
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:23
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
Anonymous wrote:It is your house. You are not running a free boarding house. Explain why it bothers you. I knew as a college student that what I did while away at school in terms of staying out late was not going to be okay with my parents and I respected that it was their house and adjusted behavior accordingly. Not talking about coming home at 9 but midnight on weeknights is reasonable compromise.
+1. Agree with this. You don’t run a motel.
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:21
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
It is your house. You are not running a free boarding house. Explain why it bothers you. I knew as a college student that what I did while away at school in terms of staying out late was not going to be okay with my parents and I respected that it was their house and adjusted behavior accordingly. Not talking about coming home at 9 but midnight on weeknights is reasonable compromise.
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:18
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
Does he wake you up when he comes in?
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:17
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
I know. I’m fine on the weekend. It’s the weeknights when I work the next day.
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:12
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
You need to just relax.
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:11
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
Excuse typos
Anonymous
05/16/2021 22:11
Subject: College age kid home out til 12 or later many nightd
We work up early. As a Mom I can’t sleep til kid home . I know I know. Trying to give freedom but also hoping for advice on compromise use at least during work week. 2nd summer after college.