The distraction is tryouts during a current season.

Anonymous wrote:I wish VYSA, us youth soccer, anyone else would just mandate that member clubs can not hold tryouts prior to Memorial Day. There is nothing like the kids who has already been demoting playing out the season- it’s just sad

The Michigan Youth Soccer Assn. did this. There was tryout week the second week of June. That said, DS had been open practicing since January with the prospective new club. We already knew an offer was coming. He did 1/2 hour of “tryout” and was selected...

You know - the club asks you to try out long before the season is over. Some then tell you to decide in 48 hours - before you have the opportunity to look at options - regardless of whether your kid is promoted, demoted, or on the same team. And, now you're trying to ban correspondence. I think that's called a "hostage".

Leaving is always difficult and I try to be polite and exit gracefully.

I’ll leave it at this, if a coach or club is not asking for feedback from you/player during the season, they 100 should not be surprised when player leaves. If you/player feel disappointed they don’t ask for feedback on why leaving, that should be enough for you/player to understand how much they care about it. If they ask for an outbrief, i’d wish them well and thank them for all they did /s dont waste your energy on feedback at that session, its all about appearance.

I wish VYSA, us youth soccer, anyone else would just mandate that member clubs can not hold tryouts prior to Memorial Day. There is nothing like the kids who has already been demoting playing out the season- it’s just sad

Anonymous wrote:First of all. Why is it that soccer clubs hold tryouts before the season is up to begin with?

Typically they hold them over a 2-3 day period and you would think this can easily be scheduled after the season.

They keep getting pushed earlier and earlier and it disrupts the spring season, which is pretty unfair to the kids. Seems like a club would try to get a jump on everyone else and go earlier, and then everyone else followed.

sounds like a fun read. A 95 theses, travel soccer club edition.

As my 13 year old would put it: wut?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Obviously tryouts are in full swing. Can we start a post highlighting proper etiquette.

I can start:
Nobody needs a long email about why a team no longer suits your child and why they are deciding to move on to another club. Don’t be a disruptive, distracting douchebag and send an email out to an entire team when the season is still going on.
Perhaps better etiquette is to send a short email once the season wraps saying “thank you, best of luck to all, good bye.”

Anyone else have any good tryout etiquette tips to share?

I don't know. Maybe don't try and tell everyone else how to behave?

You are probably the kind of person who needs to hear proper etiquette the most. There most certainly is a certain way people should behave. I laughed when I saw this post bc tryouts bring out all the crazies. I bet you are one of them. Maybe read the etiquette on this post.

First of all. Why is it that soccer clubs hold tryouts before the season is up to begin with?

Typically they hold them over a 2-3 day period and you would think this can easily be scheduled after the season.

Don’t scream at your kid like a maniac from the stands (where you shouldn’t be anyway) while they are just trying to do their best. I see this happen at every tryout and it really makes the parent look like a psycho.

Anonymous wrote:Obviously tryouts are in full swing. Can we start a post highlighting proper etiquette.

I can start:
Nobody needs a long email about why a team no longer suits your child and why they are deciding to move on to another club. Don’t be a disruptive, distracting douchebag and send an email out to an entire team when the season is still going on.
Perhaps better etiquette is to send a short email once the season wraps saying “thank you, best of luck to all, good bye.”

Anyone else have any good tryout etiquette tips to share?

Don't pick your nose - it's always good advice.

Have your kid play in pickup soccer games. It is the best way to prepare for tryouts at another club.

Anonymous wrote:Obviously tryouts are in full swing. Can we start a post highlighting proper etiquette.

I can start:
Nobody needs a long email about why a team no longer suits your child and why they are deciding to move on to another club. Don’t be a disruptive, distracting douchebag and send an email out to an entire team when the season is still going on.
Perhaps better etiquette is to send a short email once the season wraps saying “thank you, best of luck to all, good bye.”

Anyone else have any good tryout etiquette tips to share?

I don't know. Maybe don't try and tell everyone else how to behave?

Obviously tryouts are in full swing. Can we start a post highlighting proper etiquette.

I can start:
Nobody needs a long email about why a team no longer suits your child and why they are deciding to move on to another club. Don’t be a disruptive, distracting douchebag and send an email out to an entire team when the season is still going on.
Perhaps better etiquette is to send a short email once the season wraps saying “thank you, best of luck to all, good bye.”

Anyone else have any good tryout etiquette tips to share?