How good is her english? If she is not american, it may be difficult to u sweat and and remember instructions in another language that is not her mother tongue. I remember we had a nanny that did not speak English much. At the beginning, I thought she understood everything I was saying because she was nodding and saying yes... but she did not understand it all

Anonymous wrote:Our nanny is having issues following instructions for our child's food like dietary restrictions and not feeding the same things like nuggets and other frozen thing's. We keep trying to teach her but she seemed to always get confused and also mess up pick up times etc. Just recently she admitted that she has a learning disability that prevents her from learning new things or changing her thinking. She is very nice but we are concerned about the annoyance and even more so a mistake that could harm the kids. What would you do? She didn't disclose this when we hired her and she sold her self on being a fast learner, make food from scratch and thrived on a busy schedule etc.

My response to the bolded would be "how have you worked around that? Is there a way that I can approach these issues that would make things easier for your?" Perhaps she does better with verbal instructions rather than written, or vis versa, or has some systems that have worked for her in the past, like setting alarms.

If she's got nothing, or if after trying to change your approach, it's still not working, yes, I'd get a new nanny. The ability to follow instructions is a dealbreaker for me.

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Anonymous wrote:Can you write out a guide for her?

This is way too much work. What, are you going to write out a guide that pick up is at 1pm MTuThF and 10am on Wednesday except for the following holidays, teacher work days, etc? Are there going to be instructions for looking up directions on google maps and giving yourself time to park? And what if it rains?

GTFO

At this point you hired another kid to take care of. Get a new nanny.

+1

I have a teen with severe ADHD. He’s had serious side effects from meds and for long stretches of time could not be medicated - and those times were filled with reminders, alarm o’clocks, more reminders, and giant boards where I wrote schedules. And more reminders.

Right now he’s on meds to take his AP exams: the side effects are going to show up in a few weeks, but for right now it’s beautiful. No more reminders, no schedule board, no more mental space devoted to managing his life 24/7. Such a welcome break!

Talk to her about getting evaluated for ADHD. If she has it, and suffers no side effects from meds, stimulants will literally change her life.

Anonymous wrote:Can you write out a guide for her?

This is way too much work. What, are you going to write out a guide that pick up is at 1pm MTuThF and 10am on Wednesday except for the following holidays, teacher work days, etc? Are there going to be instructions for looking up directions on google maps and giving yourself time to park? And what if it rains?

GTFO

At this point you hired another kid to take care of. Get a new nanny.

Can you write out a guide for her?

This is very hard, for sure, but if your kids love her then I’d probably put up with it if she’s otherwise reliable. If your kids arent attached to her then yes I’d let her go.

The PP up thread who says it only gets harder as time goes on is right. We’ve had the same nanny for 2 years, and my kids are very bonded to her. We can’t get rid of her at this point. I feel like it would break their hearts. So basically she can do almost whatever she wants.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t have food in the house if the kids aren’t allowed to eat it. If there are no nuggets for her to cook, then she won’t serve them. But yeah I’d fire her.,

NP here. I have nuggets in my house for emergency dinners. I shouldn't have to ban these foods -- the nanny should be able to know not to feed the kids nuggets or feed them nuggets four days in a row if the parents give these instructions. This is basic.

Don’t have food in the house if the kids aren’t allowed to eat it. If there are no nuggets for her to cook, then she won’t serve them. But yeah I’d fire her.,

Find a new nanny, then let her go. It won't get better, and you will start to get tired of having to do extra work so that your nanny can do her job. Would your boss give you that much help to reach the minimum level of competence in yours, permanently? Not as a temporary training, but for the duration? No? Then replace.

Our nanny is like this, but she's been around for while and the longer she stays, the harder it is to let her go.

I've resigned myself to the fact that she treats our kids very well but is incapable of following directions even though I have made lists, reminded her a million times and put things on a calendar.

The kids really like her and most of what she falls short on falls on my shoulders, so I just deal with it (laundry, meals, picking up after the kids, remembering anything).

My advice is to let her go now and find a replacement because it will just get much harder as time goes on. I think our nanny has executive functioning issues and even though I have tried every which way to make reminders & help her remember her tasks, nothing works. I am counting down the days when we can be done.

She needs to set alarms for pick up times. You can make a menu for the food - maybe a week or two week rotation so she doesn’t have to think, just execute. I suspect that one is mostly because it’s easy to make chicken nuggets and you don’t have to fight with the kid to eat them.

If she can’t do the job with reasonable crutches, it’s time to go.

Set calendar reminders on her phone? Draw up a meal plan in advance? Or if she can't do the job, yes, fire.

Yes, if she repeatedly ignored instructions for the kids I would fire her

Our nanny is having issues following instructions for our child's food like dietary restrictions and not feeding the same things like nuggets and other frozen thing's. We keep trying to teach her but she seemed to always get confused and also mess up pick up times etc. Just recently she admitted that she has a learning disability that prevents her from learning new things or changing her thinking. She is very nice but we are concerned about the annoyance and even more so a mistake that could harm the kids. What would you do? She didn't disclose this when we hired her and she sold her self on being a fast learner, make food from scratch and thrived on a busy schedule etc.