Anonymous wrote:The only allegiance I want my coach to have is to winning.

I prefer a coach who despise talking to parents. All parents. No favorites. No politics.

Winning. That’s it

That’s not it. Don’t worry about winning if players are developing, learning, growing. My favorite seasons are the 4-6-2 type of seasons, with a couple of butt kickings mixed in. Enough wins to not be demoralized, but plenty of opportunities to see where improvement is needed.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. In our years on the youth soccer scene in this area, I've seen such awful behavior from parents on the sidelines and on this forum. It is surreal how adults act when it comes to children playing sports. Honestly I don't think my childless friends would even believe half the crap i've seen.

I'm sure some of the grievances regarding coaches, administrative staff and others aired on this board are true but some of you should take it up directly with the person you have a problem with or just leave the club.

Ultimately the club begins to to members. Without the families there are no clubs. Rather than getting run out by the coaches the club should listen to the parents more.

Agree.

But in order for clubs to respond, parent have to first talk to them about the issue. If it isn't resolved families will leave.

Yes but you also must realize not all but many coaches have an large ego and sometimes even arrogant demeanor. If you talk to coaches separately They are quick to point out other coaches short comings. They tell parents what they think they want to hear then do whatever they want. Communication should constantly ongoing with both player and family if you expect to see player development. Many coaches especially at BRYC have minimal communication and use the manager (a parent) as the go between.

The only allegiance I want my coach to have is to winning.

I prefer a coach who despise talking to parents. All parents. No favorites. No politics.

Winning. That’s it

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. In our years on the youth soccer scene in this area, I've seen such awful behavior from parents on the sidelines and on this forum. It is surreal how adults act when it comes to children playing sports. Honestly I don't think my childless friends would even believe half the crap i've seen.

I'm sure some of the grievances regarding coaches, administrative staff and others aired on this board are true but some of you should take it up directly with the person you have a problem with or just leave the club.

Ultimately the club begins to to members. Without the families there are no clubs. Rather than getting run out by the coaches the club should listen to the parents more.

Agree.

But in order for clubs to respond, parent have to first talk to them about the issue. If it isn't resolved families will leave.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. In our years on the youth soccer scene in this area, I've seen such awful behavior from parents on the sidelines and on this forum. It is surreal how adults act when it comes to children playing sports. Honestly I don't think my childless friends would even believe half the crap i've seen.

I'm sure some of the grievances regarding coaches, administrative staff and others aired on this board are true but some of you should take it up directly with the person you have a problem with or just leave the club.

Ultimately the club begins to to members. Without the families there are no clubs. Rather than getting run out by the coaches the club should listen to the parents more.

Such as what? What are suggestions you or other parents have made that should be listened to more? I'm not the OP, but I am a coach as well (albeit a volunteer). Seriously, what do you have to recommend or offer that doesn't involve your DC's playing time or a difference in the coaches' philosophy? What have you done to try to contribute to your club in a voluntary/staff support role? And have you voted with your feet/pocketbook? What about these other parents you reference? Just leave if it's not what you want

Anonymous wrote:I agree with OP. In our years on the youth soccer scene in this area, I've seen such awful behavior from parents on the sidelines and on this forum. It is surreal how adults act when it comes to children playing sports. Honestly I don't think my childless friends would even believe half the crap i've seen.

I'm sure some of the grievances regarding coaches, administrative staff and others aired on this board are true but some of you should take it up directly with the person you have a problem with or just leave the club.

Ultimately the club begins to to members. Without the families there are no clubs. Rather than getting run out by the coaches the club should listen to the parents more.

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Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

I'm curious. Which club are you with?

I am not going to say that for obvious reasons.
Look what happened below though. Instantly, someone came on and took a swipe at a coach.
If you don't like the coach, leave. It is really that simple.
If your child has a problem with the coach, he or she should address it with the coach before the parent gets involved. i realize that some children just can't do that, and in that case the parent should make contact, but what the parent SHOULDN'T do is regress to a junior high school level and come on here to do a hatchet job on somebody.
If you do that, you are a bad parent, plain and simple.
By the same token, if your kid loses a game, or gets cut by a team, or something in that vein and you race back here to badmouth not only the coach but also kids and their parents, you are still a bad parent but you have added on being a terrible person.
I will bet some of the people who in their petulant rages storm here to whine and moan are the same who would decry bullying of any sort and would stampede to the school if the slightest comment hurt their child's feelings.
It is people like this who keep our society in a constant state of turmoil and who unleash children onto the world who are unable to accept any reality other than their own. Sick

I agree with OP. In our years on the youth soccer scene in this area, I've seen such awful behavior from parents on the sidelines and on this forum. It is surreal how adults act when it comes to children playing sports. Honestly I don't think my childless friends would even believe half the crap i've seen.

I'm sure some of the grievances regarding coaches, administrative staff and others aired on this board are true but some of you should take it up directly with the person you have a problem with or just leave the club.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

As long as you’re not AF at BRYC — I agree with you!

you two need to talk directly.

PP, it does seem a bit crazy town that you've got such an ax to grind with AF. We're a BRYC family and really do not have any issues with AF. He seems like a nice guy and we've never had any points of contention. On the other hand, some of the parents at the club have been off the rails.

Making up excuses now?

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Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

As long as you’re not AF at BRYC — I agree with you!

you two need to talk directly.

Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

As long as you’re not AF at BRYC — I agree with you!

The absolute anonymity that DCUM allows is what makes the forum so toxic. At least requiring people to hide behind a username would allow the broader population (and mods) to identify the posters who offer no value and time and again drag the forum/threads into the morass.

Anonymous wrote:I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer

I'm curious. Which club are you with?

I will to you outright that I am a coach.
I have actually been brought up in this forum a few times- some good, some bad. It is what it is.
Some of you folks, not all, really need to take an inventory of your lives.
I will bet that some of you, if asked, would say "Soccer isn't life. It needs to be kept in perspective" then you come rushing on here to bash your kids coach or, even worse, utilize the anonymity of the forum to cast aspersions on other teams. Sick.
Grow up will you?
I actually know of at least three parents who posted so obviously that they got caught by their kid's coach. How incredibly shameful and embarassing that must be.
Thanks to all of you who come here intelligently and contribute to the advancement of soccer