At Shady Grove, their policy is not to allow kids in the waiting room. I think that we should all presume that the best way to inform friends and family in the least triggering way for the individual. I think I would prefer a social media announcement that included it as one of many happenings, (i.e., "Looking forward to 2021: (1) new job; (2) expecting; and (3) hoping to be fully vaccinated by end of the month).

Anonymous wrote:Some people are clueless. My sister MAILED me a card with an ultrasound photo announcing her pregnancy (the week we started fertility treatment).

I know when I go on social media or see a text pop up to expect pregnancy news from others, but I thought opening the mail was safe. It felt so invasive to have an ultrasound picture physically in my house.

Pregnant people- please announce via text or social media only. Thanks.

The mail is your hang up. Some people prefer text. Some people prefer a letter. As long as it’s not in person or on the phone it’s still considerate.

Sorry, OP.

I agree that texting and email have been Godsends for the phone-wary people, me included.

Some people are clueless. My sister MAILED me a card with an ultrasound photo announcing her pregnancy (the week we started fertility treatment).

I know when I go on social media or see a text pop up to expect pregnancy news from others, but I thought opening the mail was safe. It felt so invasive to have an ultrasound picture physically in my house.

Pregnant people- please announce via text or social media only. Thanks.

I agree. But I actually have a family member I told by text out of an abundance of caution because they don’t have children and not sure if it’s a personal choice or another issue (I conceived via IVF), and they were insulted I told them that way!

But with my first I told all my friends via text because after my own experience, I never who was struggling privately. It’s so much easier to act the happy parts over text even when you’re sad for yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:Yes, wish everyone would be so thoughtful. Had a friend that knew I was undergoing fertility treatments, and insisted on telling me in person, even after other friends suggested to her that it would not be the preferred method of communication.

Damn, why do people do that. It's sadistic. No in-person. No phone. Take note, fertile people: asynchronous communication with no audio or video is key. Give us our privacy and space. It'll be more pleasant for both of us.

The worst was that this person also struggled to conceive so they 'knew what it felt like' but still insisted on telling us in person (several months after telling our mutual friends, btw).

Anonymous wrote:Yes, wish everyone would be so thoughtful. Had a friend that knew I was undergoing fertility treatments, and insisted on telling me in person, even after other friends suggested to her that it would not be the preferred method of communication.

Damn, why do people do that. It's sadistic. No in-person. No phone. Take note, fertile people: asynchronous communication with no audio or video is key. Give us our privacy and space. It'll be more pleasant for both of us.

Yes, wish everyone would be so thoughtful. Had a friend that knew I was undergoing fertility treatments, and insisted on telling me in person, even after other friends suggested to her that it would not be the preferred method of communication.

A dear friend just told me she’s pregnant with her second, after having sex a few times.

I gave up on a second after six IVFs and five miscarriages.

Texting is great because I am writing cheerful, excited, exclamation-filled replies to her while tears roll down my face. I am happy for her. It’s not about her. But boy does this poke a bruise.