Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do you both want to divorce? Can you handle it amicably? Lawyers cost money. If you can come up with a plan to split things equitably, then just try that—engage a mediator if you must.

I don’t want to divorce. But I can’t continue living like this.

Then you do want a divorce. Your problem is you don't want to DEAL WITH GOING THROUGH a divorce. That's understandable. I want to divorce my wife. But, we have a eight year old girl who is amazing. She is the only reason I have not filed - literally. I have spoken with a divorce attorney. Our meeting was over two hours long. I know the process, the financials, etc. It's hard to deal with. Toss in a kid...for me it's not worth it - yet. If I could snap my fingers and everything fast forwarded 1.5 years I would get a divorce. But, the pain it would cause my kid isn't worth it.

Anonymous wrote:Do you both want to divorce? Can you handle it amicably? Lawyers cost money. If you can come up with a plan to split things equitably, then just try that—engage a mediator if you must.

I don’t want to divorce. But I can’t continue living like this.

If you are in VA everything is split 50/50. Without kids it's easier. Whatever you two have, just divide it. I've seen it done where one spouse will agree to take certain properties and the other spouse takes other properties (instead of selling it and 50/50 the cash).

And before you ask, no you cannot hide anything. Trust me, judges HATE that and you don't want that if your divorce goes to trail.

Anonymous wrote:Do you both want to divorce? Can you handle it amicably? Lawyers cost money. If you can come up with a plan to split things equitably, then just try that—engage a mediator if you must.

Yep - this. Seems like you had a starter marriage - good luck with the next one, and thank your lucky stars that no kids are involved.

Do you both want to divorce? Can you handle it amicably? Lawyers cost money. If you can come up with a plan to split things equitably, then just try that—engage a mediator if you must.

Lawyer up!

Anonymous wrote:You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free


Sorry I couldn't resist.

yes, see a lawyer.

Clicked on this post to type that!!! There must be 50 ways to leave your lover. Just listen to me.

+1 to lawyer
Also, if you have any idea that it will be anything less that completely amicable, make sure you have all of your personal critical documents in a safe place outside the house, and make sure that you have a bank account that is yours alone and has enough money to hold you over for a while. Also, make sure that any income is channeled to that account.

You just slip out the back, Jack
Make a new plan, Stan
You don't need to be coy, Roy
Just get yourself free
Hop on the bus, Gus
You don't need to discuss much
Just drop off the key, Lee
And get yourself free


Sorry I couldn't resist.

yes, see a lawyer.

No kids? This is not hard. See an attorney. You can also just go to a mediator and agree to split everything earned in the marriage 50/50 and that is it. Cheap. Easy.

lawyer is the first move you'll be fine

No kids, but finances entangled. New house, multiple properties and investments that we have jointly invested in.

I guess I need to see a lawyer.

But what else should I do in the meantime?