I divorced him. I never once blamed the other woman - she meant nothing to me. He was the one who broke his vows to me, not her. I never even met her.

I never once lost my dignity which I do consider the best revenge. He was a crying mess.

Anonymous wrote:In my case, the OW was a lay minister! In a conservative women's ministry in a red state. She was all over FB with her hypocritical bible stuff.

I emailed the facts to her pastor. The pastor dealt with her. She was so ashamed! Finally.

[snicker]

I got the best divorce attorney in town. I got 1/2 his business and alimony for life. He had to move out of his dream home to pay me. He lives in a shit shack and the kids lost his respect.

And my life keeps getting better and better.

In my case, the OW was a lay minister! In a conservative women's ministry in a red state. She was all over FB with her hypocritical bible stuff.

I emailed the facts to her pastor. The pastor dealt with her. She was so ashamed! Finally.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I plot. And I wait. The further out from the affair when they think they have gotten away with it, is the better time to strike.

But why? What are you going to do? If (as seems to be the case) the affair is already over, they have gotten away with it; you've done nothing.

It's called revenge. Of course, it's done after it's over. That is how revenge works...same with karma.

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Totally

Not revenge, but confronted. You are not real to them during the affair. They push you out of their minds. Reality staring them in the face is what they need to see the collateral damage their selfish, short-sighted decision casused.

For me I saw what a nasty little troll she really was. She was a real 'C U Next Tuesday'. She wanted to first complain about my ex and try to win me over...ha....and then proceeded to beg and cry and ask me to please not tell her husband or break up her family.

It gave me really good closure. They have secrecy and control and it really feels like taking your power back after being in the complete dark and not knowing the reality of your own life.

You see they are pathetic little fools that don't deserve your time of day. Their lives will continue to be miserable because they do not live authentically and haven't confronted what is wrong inside. They are constantly looking for outside fixes.

It can truly be cathartic to say your peace and move on.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I plot. And I wait. The further out from the affair when they think they have gotten away with it, is the better time to strike.

But why? What are you going to do? If (as seems to be the case) the affair is already over, they have gotten away with it; you've done nothing.

It's called revenge. Of course, it's done after it's over. That is how revenge works...same with karma.

Revenge is a dish best served cold.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I plot. And I wait. The further out from the affair when they think they have gotten away with it, is the better time to strike.

But why? What are you going to do? If (as seems to be the case) the affair is already over, they have gotten away with it; you've done nothing.

It's called revenge. Of course, it's done after it's over. That is how revenge works...same with karma.

Anonymous wrote:I plot. And I wait. The further out from the affair when they think they have gotten away with it, is the better time to strike.

But why? What are you going to do? If (as seems to be the case) the affair is already over, they have gotten away with it; you've done nothing.

I fantasized about it, but at the end of the day I just moved on. Never confronted OW, never acknowledged her, nothing. She's still with my ex and she has never dared cross my path; I suspect she is either ashamed or anxious about it. Hopefully both.

As for my ex.... I cut him off completely. No revenge, but I told him that I wished I could cut him out of my life forever but since we have kids, that's not possible. I only communicate with him about logistics related to the kids. That's it. Drama free, and it's as close to 100% out of my life as ai can get him.

I plot. And I wait. The further out from the affair when they think they have gotten away with it, is the better time to strike.

I sent the spouse an email. I don’t consider that revenge though. I wish someone had alerted me to the multi-year affair. He was completely in the dark too.

I beat the sh@t out of my ex-husband and would have liked to beat the shit out of her too, but didn’t want a police record. I put the family curse on her which has seemed to always work and will do it’s magic in due time.

I had lots of revenge fantasies which are quite common. But, ultimately, saw how fricking pathetic and gross they both were. Plus, he had dumped her very cruelly before I found out so wasting what little she had left before old age on thinking he was her ticket out of her marriage was revenge enough. She was left shattered and with her cover blown to her spouse. And with no means to support herself. Fun times.

Life is infinitely better now.

^LOL were you able to get him deported? One less a-hole in that case.

Yes. I went to INS and tried to get him deported.

Anything but the lame living your best life is the best revenge.