Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My average child just got a full-tuition scholarship. He wasn’t aiming for big or name schools but one that was a good fit. He got the scholarship based on an amazing essay that he wrote. I’m so proud of him. And I want to encourage everyone to chill out a little about “best” schools. His friends are worried they’ll fail life if they don’t go to an Ivy. Meanwhile, he’ll be graduating debt free.

How do you know this?

OP here. Because it was a scholarship based on a specific essay prompt. He'd already gotten into the college. This essay was scholarship specific. No mystery here.

Was the scholarship from the school or it was a scholarship he won to use at any school?

That's great because I have a very average kid!

It's from the school. I'd rather not say which because it's a small school and I'd like to remain anonymous.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My average child just got a full-tuition scholarship. He wasn’t aiming for big or name schools but one that was a good fit. He got the scholarship based on an amazing essay that he wrote. I’m so proud of him. And I want to encourage everyone to chill out a little about “best” schools. His friends are worried they’ll fail life if they don’t go to an Ivy. Meanwhile, he’ll be graduating debt free.

How do you know this?

OP here. Because it was a scholarship based on a specific essay prompt. He'd already gotten into the college. This essay was scholarship specific. No mystery here.

Was the scholarship from the school or it was a scholarship he won to use at any school?

That's great because I have a very average kid!

^^ Makes sense OP. Congrats!

OP here. I guess there's a fine line between gloating/bragging and celebrating.

To me, gloating is more like if I am happy others aren't succeeding which is not the case here. It would be great, as far as I'm concerned, if everyone got what they wanted/needed.

However, I do think DCUM, the DMV in general and my kids' friends and their parents are a bit overly frothed up about high-status schools and that is one of the reasons I posted here. I want to reassure other parents that it's not highly-SLAC or die. There are many options for many types of kids and, in fact, some kids would be happier and more successful at less selective schools because those other schools are a better fit for the individual.

I am sensitive to other's feelings and haven't posted on social media and have only told a few select friends/family. Seeing as this is an anonymous forum, I figured it would be safe to be a little celebratory without hurting anyone's feelings.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My average child just got a full-tuition scholarship. He wasn’t aiming for big or name schools but one that was a good fit. He got the scholarship based on an amazing essay that he wrote. I’m so proud of him. And I want to encourage everyone to chill out a little about “best” schools. His friends are worried they’ll fail life if they don’t go to an Ivy. Meanwhile, he’ll be graduating debt free.

How do you know this?

OP here. Because it was a scholarship based on a specific essay prompt. He'd already gotten into the college. This essay was scholarship specific. No mystery here.

Anonymous wrote:OP, I realize your post is in an anonymous forum, but in real life I would not gloat about the scholarship. Some people will still think only a top tier school is worthwhile, notwithstanding your DC’s scholarship. Some people might be jealous, and some people might think you lack tact for bragging (especially about money matters). Best way is to be humble. Good luck to your DC in college.

— Mom of kid who also got a full tuition scholarship based on a scholarship application that involved writing essays

Is this irony? I can’t tell anymore (thanks, Alanis)...

Anonymous wrote:OP, I realize your post is in an anonymous forum, but in real life I would not gloat about the scholarship. Some people will still think only a top tier school is worthwhile, notwithstanding your DC’s scholarship. Some people might be jealous, and some people might think you lack tact for bragging (especially about money matters). Best way is to be humble. Good luck to your DC in college.

— Mom of kid who also got a full tuition scholarship based on a scholarship application that involved writing essays

NP. OP, you might care what “some people” might think, but I hope you don’t. Either way, I say congrats to your kid! That’s freaking fantastic!!!

OP, I realize your post is in an anonymous forum, but in real life I would not gloat about the scholarship. Some people will still think only a top tier school is worthwhile, notwithstanding your DC’s scholarship. Some people might be jealous, and some people might think you lack tact for bragging (especially about money matters). Best way is to be humble. Good luck to your DC in college.

— Mom of kid who also got a full tuition scholarship based on a scholarship application that involved writing essays

I hope his essay was about all the crazy people freaking out about the best colleges etc and how he is just chill about it.

well done.

Anonymous wrote:My average child just got a full-tuition scholarship. He wasn’t aiming for big or name schools but one that was a good fit. He got the scholarship based on an amazing essay that he wrote. I’m so proud of him. And I want to encourage everyone to chill out a little about “best” schools. His friends are worried they’ll fail life if they don’t go to an Ivy. Meanwhile, he’ll be graduating debt free.

How do you know this?

Anonymous wrote:My average child just got a full-tuition scholarship. He wasn’t aiming for big or name schools but one that was a good fit. He got the scholarship based on an amazing essay that he wrote. I’m so proud of him. And I want to encourage everyone to chill out a little about “best” schools. His friends are worried they’ll fail life if they don’t go to an Ivy. Meanwhile, he’ll be graduating debt free.

Congrats. Not sure why putting his friends down was necessary though.

Congratulations to him - that's wonderful! You must be so proud. Mind if I ask what school?

OP, that is wonderful. Congratulations to your child. It is nice to hear about good outcomes who don't fit the DCUM definition of "high achiever."

Congratulations-- that's fantastic news!

My average child just got a full-tuition scholarship. He wasn’t aiming for big or name schools but one that was a good fit. He got the scholarship based on an amazing essay that he wrote. I’m so proud of him. And I want to encourage everyone to chill out a little about “best” schools. His friends are worried they’ll fail life if they don’t go to an Ivy. Meanwhile, he’ll be graduating debt free.