Leave it to your husband. I have a SIL who is very similar (right down to the 10 year age difference) and oddly co-dependent with my in-laws (like at age 35, her 75 year old parents drove 8 hours to help her move into a new apartment) and I can totally see something like this happening with her. I basically leave all tending to her to my husband.

Anonymous wrote:Just ignore Op. I feel for you - sometimes you can’t win as a SIL no matter how much you try. My kids are on Instagram and I am not. They saw that their aunt posted she was really sick and mentioned it to me. I texted her to say that I hope she feels better. She called me and started screaming that it was none of my business (she has 1,000+ “friends” on fb so I assume she has at least that many on Instagram and I know some of them she has only met in passing). She yelled that my kids shouldn’t have told me (why). She was mad they didn’t contact her (fair) but I should stay out of her private business. If she had told one of my kids confidentially, I could see her point, but she put the info on the internet. Good luck op. There is likely something else going on as there usually is with mine.

There is no need to talk to this person again, OP. I would be 100% done.

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Anonymous wrote:Just ignore Op. I feel for you - sometimes you can’t win as a SIL no matter how much you try. My kids are on Instagram and I am not. They saw that their aunt posted she was really sick and mentioned it to me. I texted her to say that I hope she feels better. She called me and started screaming that it was none of my business (she has 1,000+ “friends” on fb so I assume she has at least that many on Instagram and I know some of them she has only met in passing). She yelled that my kids shouldn’t have told me (why). She was mad they didn’t contact her (fair) but I should stay out of her private business. If she had told one of my kids confidentially, I could see her point, but she put the info on the internet. Good luck op. There is likely something else going on as there usually is with mine.

She really hates you, doesn't she? What a nasty comment to something so nice. You can win with that person, right? SHe is mad your kids did not contact her! and she is crazy mad that you did! WTF!
I would totally go silent on her for years.

Eh. While I agree the SIL is a bit nutty, it takes two to tango. I am sure this is not a one sided issue.

Anonymous wrote:Just ignore Op. I feel for you - sometimes you can’t win as a SIL no matter how much you try. My kids are on Instagram and I am not. They saw that their aunt posted she was really sick and mentioned it to me. I texted her to say that I hope she feels better. She called me and started screaming that it was none of my business (she has 1,000+ “friends” on fb so I assume she has at least that many on Instagram and I know some of them she has only met in passing). She yelled that my kids shouldn’t have told me (why). She was mad they didn’t contact her (fair) but I should stay out of her private business. If she had told one of my kids confidentially, I could see her point, but she put the info on the internet. Good luck op. There is likely something else going on as there usually is with mine.

She really hates you, doesn't she? What a nasty comment to something so nice. You can win with that person, right? SHe is mad your kids did not contact her! and she is crazy mad that you did! WTF!
I would totally go silent on her for years.

What on earth is with all the nasty sisters and SILs today! On a regular day, I might find that OPs are a bit accusatory and looking for something to be offended by! But, not today!
This is such a nasty, petty thing that she said to you, for something really awesome that you did. By accident or not, who cares. Is she also insane? BCS, if she was login in and finding nothing, surely she understands that it was pure luck? Clearly, she doesn't!
She would rather have her mom wait longer and possibly die, than have her SIL book an appointment!
If I didn't read it, I would say, unbelievable!

Just ignore Op. I feel for you - sometimes you can’t win as a SIL no matter how much you try. My kids are on Instagram and I am not. They saw that their aunt posted she was really sick and mentioned it to me. I texted her to say that I hope she feels better. She called me and started screaming that it was none of my business (she has 1,000+ “friends” on fb so I assume she has at least that many on Instagram and I know some of them she has only met in passing). She yelled that my kids shouldn’t have told me (why). She was mad they didn’t contact her (fair) but I should stay out of her private business. If she had told one of my kids confidentially, I could see her point, but she put the info on the internet. Good luck op. There is likely something else going on as there usually is with mine.

No reply. Just send it to MIL.

Anonymous wrote:"No worries, I'll cancel the appointment. I'm sorry and good luck. If MIL needs to know why it was cancelled I'm happy to let her know."

Don’t do this. She needs the appointment. Just ignore the sister-in-law. She’s being ridiculous.

Ignore her. Don’t make other people’s issues yours. Awesome you were able to get a shot for her!

Not that it should really matter, but how long had she been trying without success?

No need for you to reply to her. If normally not like this, she will realise she overreacted within a day or two.

"No worries, I'll cancel the appointment. I'm sorry and good luck. If MIL needs to know why it was cancelled I'm happy to let her know."

SIL sounds socially restarted and a head case.

You should ignore it, but your husband should tell her what for. What an idiot.

Ignore. She should be happy that her mom is getting the vaccine .

I live in a state where vaccines recently opened up for people 65-plus. MIL is under 65 but has two pre-existing quals so also is eligible. The appointment process was impossible - basically log on at 4am and hope for a slot. She is also without a computer and needed help to book.
DH and his sister were online trying to land an appointment, which was a hot mess, and they had no luck. Meanwhile I happened to log on easily and find an appointment. It was pure luck. A fluke of timing. I texted the group to let MIL know I had found the appt. MIL and DH were delighted. Nothing from SIL.
This morning she texts DH and me that I showed her up (?) and she would have gotten through eventually and in the future not to bud into her mom's affairs.
???????

She can be weirdly territorial about stuff at times, was basically an only child as she and DH are 10 years apart, but this seems beyond the pale. It was like a simple, logistical thing that I helped with. How do I reply? Do I reply? Leave it to my husband?