Anonymous
02/15/2021 18:02
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
This is perfect.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:56
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Anonymous wrote:DH gets home on the later side, and I’ve been kind enough to pick up the FaceTime slack with my ILs. My girls are young, so I’ve tried to help things along and provide a bit of structure, prompt them here and there, etc.
Well, last week, when I started off by asking if they had any snow, my MIL cut me off and said, “We just want to talk to the girls.” And it occurred to me that they’ve done and said this the whole time; ignore me completely, cut me off, etc. So this week I decided, you want just the girls? You got them. I hand the phone over and hear them say “we can only see the lamp” or “I think you muted it” or “one at a time.” And then when my oldest decides she’s done, they hang up.
Oh well! If they don’t like it, they can schedule calls with their son. I’m done trying to facilitate. They didn’t even say hello to me before. I can’t believe I put up with it that long. I’m free!
I love this! Your ILs sound like my ILs. You've inspired me!
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:55
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
I just automatically hand the phone to my kid with my parents. Makes life so much better. They have zero interest in me and very little in the kids so its a five minute call.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:53
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Lol. To be honest I do that to my mom too. And she’s a good mom. I’m just like here’s your grandson Mom deal.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:41
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Honestly, you deserve a lot of credit for answeringn the phone at all after that. I don't think I would.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:39
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Enjoy the “me time” that they provide you with the free virtual babysitting!
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:39
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
OP here. Thank you all for the support! The people pleaser in me is torn, but I know just accepting bad treatment wasn’t working for me.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:37
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Anonymous wrote:Wow, your in-laws are so incredibly rude. I absolutely love how you’ve handled it!
+100.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:33
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Wow, your in-laws are so incredibly rude. I absolutely love how you’ve handled it!
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:30
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Anonymous wrote:How old are your girls? Sounds hilarious.
Good for you, op!
5.5 and 3
And yes, what I hear is fairly funny. There’s a lot of “showing Grandma” something, and they’re just shouting and covering the camera with half a finger.
You want just the girls? Your wish is my command!
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:27
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
How old are your girls? Sounds hilarious.
Good for you, op!
Good for you, op!
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:24
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Anonymous wrote:Wow, that is extremely rude. How does your husband feel about how rude his mother is to you?
To be honest, I’m giving myself time to cool down. I’m going to talk to him about it this weekend. The only change so far is I no longer initiate the call. They call me, and I don’t deny the call, but I don’t even say hi, I just hand the phone to my kids, and it’s over within minutes.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:24
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Good for you OP, that's so rude & annoying on your ILs part.
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:22
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
Wow, that is extremely rude. How does your husband feel about how rude his mother is to you?
Anonymous
02/15/2021 17:18
Subject: You just wanted to talk to them; happy to oblige!
DH gets home on the later side, and I’ve been kind enough to pick up the FaceTime slack with my ILs. My girls are young, so I’ve tried to help things along and provide a bit of structure, prompt them here and there, etc.
Well, last week, when I started off by asking if they had any snow, my MIL cut me off and said, “We just want to talk to the girls.” And it occurred to me that they’ve done and said this the whole time; ignore me completely, cut me off, etc. So this week I decided, you want just the girls? You got them. I hand the phone over and hear them say “we can only see the lamp” or “I think you muted it” or “one at a time.” And then when my oldest decides she’s done, they hang up.
Oh well! If they don’t like it, they can schedule calls with their son. I’m done trying to facilitate. They didn’t even say hello to me before. I can’t believe I put up with it that long. I’m free!
Well, last week, when I started off by asking if they had any snow, my MIL cut me off and said, “We just want to talk to the girls.” And it occurred to me that they’ve done and said this the whole time; ignore me completely, cut me off, etc. So this week I decided, you want just the girls? You got them. I hand the phone over and hear them say “we can only see the lamp” or “I think you muted it” or “one at a time.” And then when my oldest decides she’s done, they hang up.
Oh well! If they don’t like it, they can schedule calls with their son. I’m done trying to facilitate. They didn’t even say hello to me before. I can’t believe I put up with it that long. I’m free!