Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 15:44     Subject: What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
Anonymous wrote:We are looking into an au pair who would take up our only guest room. When grandparents visit, they need to use that room (no other beds big enough for 2 adults, they can’t sleep on the floor etc). So 4-6 times a year in one week increments, we need the au pair out of the room. Is it reasonable to double up our kids in one room and ask the au pair to sleep in a kid room with private bath? Would it be preferable to offer an Airbnb? That would get pricey but doable. We wouldn’t ask her to move everything out of her room, just clear stuff off of surfaces and keep a drawer available for guests.


No way. You give the grandparents your room and you go bunk with the kids. Her room is not a guest room. Or, put the grandparents in the kids room and get the kids a bigger bed.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 15:43     Subject: What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
You want to kick her out of her room for SIX WEEKS every year??

GTFO. No.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 15:37     Subject: Re:What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
Anonymous wrote:No you are not allowed to do this per all the legit AU pair agencies. You need to put any guests up in a hotel or they don’t visit while you have an AU pair. Or get a sofa bed or Murphy bed and put that somewhere for guests.


This. You can't take the room away from an au pair, even for a week.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 15:30     Subject: What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
Give the grandparents your bedroom.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:23     Subject: Re:What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
Anonymous wrote:No you are not allowed to do this per all the legit AU pair agencies. You need to put any guests up in a hotel or they don’t visit while you have an AU pair. Or get a sofa bed or Murphy bed and put that somewhere for guests.


Or for yourself since they’re elderly.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:20     Subject: Re:What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
No you are not allowed to do this per all the legit AU pair agencies. You need to put any guests up in a hotel or they don’t visit while you have an AU pair. Or get a sofa bed or Murphy bed and put that somewhere for guests.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:17     Subject: What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
Anonymous wrote:Why don’t the grandparents get an Air BnB or hotel...?


Not OP but this would be a huge insult in our culture! Give up your bedroom OP. Geez
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:14     Subject: What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
Why don’t the grandparents get an Air BnB or hotel...?
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:13     Subject: What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
This is a huge no. IF (and this is a huge if, because would have to be completely ok with your au pair) is that you could give her the week off and pay for her to stay somewhere else, like a hotel.
The room stops being a guest room once it becomes your au pair’s room. It sounds like maybe an au pair isn’t for you if you think this is how it works.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:11     Subject: What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
Not reasonable.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:10     Subject: Re:What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
There is an au pair forum -
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:08     Subject: What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
I think it’s rude (it’s her only private space in the home, she shouldn’t have to worry about people going through her stuff) but people do it. 6x a year is a lot.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:06     Subject: What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
Wow, your poor au pair!
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:04     Subject: Re:What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
Not reasonable. You can give up your room or grandparents can stay at hotel.
Anonymous
Post 02/14/2021 08:00     Subject: What’s reasonable to ask of au pair
We are looking into an au pair who would take up our only guest room. When grandparents visit, they need to use that room (no other beds big enough for 2 adults, they can’t sleep on the floor etc). So 4-6 times a year in one week increments, we need the au pair out of the room. Is it reasonable to double up our kids in one room and ask the au pair to sleep in a kid room with private bath? Would it be preferable to offer an Airbnb? That would get pricey but doable. We wouldn’t ask her to move everything out of her room, just clear stuff off of surfaces and keep a drawer available for guests.