Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you understand that most teachers don't want to be your friend and are just being polite because they know you are the type of mother who would make their life hell if they weren't nice to you.

OP here. I don't know that I would call us "friends," but we were "friendly." I can't say that I have the knowledge or ambition to make anyone's life hell.

It's just odd that my child spends hours a day with someone I know nothing about. I don't even know what they look like.

THAT'S weird.

My second grader's teacher had introductory meetings with each family via Blackboard so we've seen her and spoken with her. She gave us a little introduction and told us a little about herself and asked us to tell her a little about ourselves. I've also had a few phone conversations with her about my daughter's progress, so I feel like I have a good sense of her personality, anyway. But I need to be friendly with my kid's teacher, I really don't care about her personal life, she's there to teach my kid and as long as she's doing a good job, I don't think much about her. It's weird that you want to know personal details about your child's teacher.

Me again - meant to say I DON'T need to be friendly with my kid's teacher. I just want to know she's doing her job and my kid is doing a good job.

OP, I get it. I always volunteered in the classroom, got to know the teachers and the teachers always ended up friending me on Facebook. Not that that means anything but I do think it says something that they would initiate and not me (I respect their privacy so would not initiate). I enjoy having a friendly relationship with the teachers and helping them out when needed. I really miss that aspect of school.

Y'all must be stay at home moms. Moms with jobs don't have time to want to be BFF with their kids' teachers.

Anonymous wrote:I know what you mean, OP.

I know, too. And I’m definitely not THAT mom.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you understand that most teachers don't want to be your friend and are just being polite because they know you are the type of mother who would make their life hell if they weren't nice to you.

OP here. I don't know that I would call us "friends," but we were "friendly." I can't say that I have the knowledge or ambition to make anyone's life hell.

It's just odd that my child spends hours a day with someone I know nothing about. I don't even know what they look like.

OP, it’s a cocktail of unaccountability that should make any parent uneasy or at least uncomfortable.

Sounds like your children just have a shitty teacher, then.

I feel like I know them better than ever, since now I can’t help but hear them teaching. I know what you mean, though, OP.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you understand that most teachers don't want to be your friend and are just being polite because they know you are the type of mother who would make their life hell if they weren't nice to you.

OP here. I don't know that I would call us "friends," but we were "friendly." I can't say that I have the knowledge or ambition to make anyone's life hell.

It's just odd that my child spends hours a day with someone I know nothing about. I don't even know what they look like.

THAT'S weird.

My second grader's teacher had introductory meetings with each family via Blackboard so we've seen her and spoken with her. She gave us a little introduction and told us a little about herself and asked us to tell her a little about ourselves. I've also had a few phone conversations with her about my daughter's progress, so I feel like I have a good sense of her personality, anyway. But I need to be friendly with my kid's teacher, I really don't care about her personal life, she's there to teach my kid and as long as she's doing a good job, I don't think much about her. It's weird that you want to know personal details about your child's teacher.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hope you understand that most teachers don't want to be your friend and are just being polite because they know you are the type of mother who would make their life hell if they weren't nice to you.

OP here. I don't know that I would call us "friends," but we were "friendly." I can't say that I have the knowledge or ambition to make anyone's life hell.

It's just odd that my child spends hours a day with someone I know nothing about. I don't even know what they look like.

OP, it’s a cocktail of unaccountability that should make any parent uneasy or at least uncomfortable.

Anonymous wrote:I hope you understand that most teachers don't want to be your friend and are just being polite because they know you are the type of mother who would make their life hell if they weren't nice to you.

OP here. I don't know that I would call us "friends," but we were "friendly." I can't say that I have the knowledge or ambition to make anyone's life hell.

It's just odd that my child spends hours a day with someone I know nothing about. I don't even know what they look like.

Yup. +100

Please don’t stop by the classroom after school to chat.

I know what you mean, OP.

I hope you understand that most teachers don't want to be your friend and are just being polite because they know you are the type of mother who would make their life hell if they weren't nice to you.

Oh, you're THAT mom.

I have never been best friends with my kids’ teachers or anything, but I always felt that I knew them by this time of the school year. I would see them in person at conferences, chat during class parties, stop in to say hi after school if DC wanted to show me something in his classroom, maybe share a seat on the bus during a school field trip. I definitely felt like I knew them.
This year, nearly all of my communication with them is through email, and none of its personal. Sending my third grader’s teacher an email asking her how old he children are and if she has seen any good movies lately seems a little inappropriate. I really miss sharing smiles, words, jokes, and exchanges with the people who spend their time teaching my children. I’m really sorry to have missed that this year.

I know it’s a small thing on top of many bigger ones, but just the same, I wanted to say it.