If you are leaving your kids diaper that full at night you are an equal issue

We change 7-9 times a day depending on what happens.
Wake up a change
Before nap a change
After nap a change
Mid afternoon change (generally before or after lunch)
Before nap change
After nap change
Before bath change
Before bed in night diaper

Occasional poops obviously are mixed in there at any time.

LO gets very red and rashy very quickly in a wet diaper. So it’s always changes right away

Anonymous wrote:I think your nanny is neglectful and possibly dangerous and I would seriously re evaluate her as an employee. A child’s diaper should be changed immediately when wet and checked frequently (at least once an hour) to prevent diaper rash and yeast infections in skin. As for the outlets, I hope you have covers and that is just coming send to me to not point these out to a child unless saying no don’t touch.

+1. I'm not super uptight when it comes to realizing that others will care for my child in not the exact same way as I would but those are serious red flags. And you are even home- imagine if you were out of the home all day?? I would honestly find a new nanny.

Nanny here.

She’s a dangerous dud. Switch now, please!

Diapers (disposable): Some daycares change every hour, even if it’s unused, if they have one or more children prone to rash. I have an alarm on my watch for 45 minute intervals; if I notice a wet diaper sooner, I change it, but if not, I will realize at the 45 minute check. Fecal smells escape more easily, and they can change the outward shape of the diaper, so those are immediately obvious.

Diapers (cloth): Cloth makes it easier to tell when the diaper is used, and it’s easier to potty train. I keep a pail half full of water and baking soda, and I drop them in after dumping feces and lightly runsinv out urine in the sink. My preference is to run a load a day if it’s twins, every other day for singles.

Outlets: Like any sensible caregiver, I steer young children away from outlets. I don’t draw attention to them until we do a safety unit at 5. My charges are also not in danger, since we use covers that toddlers can take off (not the flimsy clear plastic).

This “nanny” is so out there that I’m afraid for any child with her!

My daycare changes diapers on an average of 4 a day.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've used both nannies and daycares and these scenarios would never happen with the providers I've worked with--there's usually a clear agreement on when children are changed. Also wrt the electrical outlet thing--not only is it common sense to steer a child away from those if they're in your home, there are really strict rules about them in childcare settings.

OP here, thanks to everybody who responded.
What are the rules about outlets in daycare? All of ours are covered, but i am uncomfortable with her drawing attention to them.

The outlets are one thing that are always inspected carefully and they need full covers that are of a size that are not a choking hazard, not those little flimsy ones.

Anonymous wrote:I've used both nannies and daycares and these scenarios would never happen with the providers I've worked with--there's usually a clear agreement on when children are changed. Also wrt the electrical outlet thing--not only is it common sense to steer a child away from those if they're in your home, there are really strict rules about them in childcare settings.

OP here, thanks to everybody who responded.
What are the rules about outlets in daycare? All of ours are covered, but i am uncomfortable with her drawing attention to them.

At least if your child knows what it's like to feel super wet, he might potty train sooner! You're almost to 20 months.

As wet as an overnight diaper? Yeah, I'd have a major problem with that.

Our kid still takes two naps, and so we change him before he goes to sleep and when he wakes up, which works out to six times a day, plus immediately upon a poop, so that's 6-8 diapers a day, which seems reasonable for a 12 month old. He's not prone to diaper rashes, and his diapers are never crazy full.

Woah. These are definitely red flags. If I told my nanny I wanted diapers changed every 90 minutes or within 3 minutes of a poop that’s what she would do - no questions asked. Have you sent any mixed messages about the expense of paying for diapers or wipes? For this alone I’d give her one - ONE - day to improve before firing.

Pointing out outlets is so dumb - shows such a lack of judgement. I cannot fathom how a good nanny would think to do this

Anonymous wrote:I think your nanny is neglectful and possibly dangerous and I would seriously re evaluate her as an employee. A child’s diaper should be changed immediately when wet and checked frequently (at least once an hour) to prevent diaper rash and yeast infections in skin. As for the outlets, I hope you have covers and that is just coming send to me to not point these out to a child unless saying no don’t touch.

+1 I think those are serious red flags. If she does things like that while you and DH are around, I’d be concerned she could be worse when you’re out of the house. Every nanny I’ve had has promptly changed diapers and taught my children at an early age not to go anywhere near outlets/other safety hazards.

I've used both nannies and daycares and these scenarios would never happen with the providers I've worked with--there's usually a clear agreement on when children are changed. Also wrt the electrical outlet thing--not only is it common sense to steer a child away from those if they're in your home, there are really strict rules about them in childcare settings.

*common sense

Also OP you shouldn’t have to specify how often to change the diapers- nanny’s should know how to care for a child.

I think your nanny is neglectful and possibly dangerous and I would seriously re evaluate her as an employee. A child’s diaper should be changed immediately when wet and checked frequently (at least once an hour) to prevent diaper rash and yeast infections in skin. As for the outlets, I hope you have covers and that is just coming send to me to not point these out to a child unless saying no don’t touch.

At 1-1.5 y.o. how often does your nanny change a wet diaper on average? I find that our nanny neglects to change the toddler and sometimes his diaper is as wet as overnight diaper. Today I pointed it out and she kinda blew me off. So i ended up changing the child myself (this was during lunch break, DH and I work from home). I think she was trying to drag it out until nap time which was in another 45 min so that she won't have to change twice potentially. Would you reprimand? Do you have an explicit instruction/agreement on diapers - every time it's wet, every hour check or smth else systematic? (I don't care about cost and am not trying to save on baby supplies, this was made clear when we hired her).

On a separate issue, she was trying to teach DC concept of "another" by pointing out electrical outlets in the house (including those behind furniture). We generally try distract him from those and steer him away. Again, would you reprimand for this and ask to use something more baby appropriate for demonstration? (doors, books, toys).

While I am at home these are not huge deal breakers to fire her over. But if both DH and I go back to the office I would not be at ease since I perceive this as cutting corners and bad judgement.

What does the collective wisdom say? (interested to hear from employers mostly).