I have kept a few things but sometimes I have asked for the receipt so I can exchange because "I need to change the size" or "it has a small defect".

Yes, immediately and as kindly as possible. It's no use pretending. He does the same to me.

No - my DH comes from a family that likes to criticize the gifts they receive. Such an awful thing to observe when I joined their family "I already have something like this, I am not sure I will wear this, I probably won't read this, I don't need this, blah, blah, blah - killed the joy in any celebration and made shopping for them a drag.

I told DH this was going to stop with us and have taught our children that there is only one appropriate response when you receive any gift "thank you."

Yes, once. DH has been buying me birding stuff for years, like binoculars, books, bird feed, etc. Finally one year I told him please no more birding related gifts. We have too much already and I'm not even that into it. He asked for ideas so I sent him links to some small classic gold earrings that I liked that would look good with my professional attires. He got me a pair of BIRD earrings, the kitchy kind that I would never wear in or out of a professional setting. I was so turned off that I blurted out that it was not my style, at all. He ended up returning them.

Depends on how much he spent. If it was over $50, I'd likely just take it back. Both he and I would rather have the money back than a wasted gift that isn't used.

When we got married, DH told me when he didn’t like a gift. I wasn’t offended because it was kind of hilarious how hard he was trying not to offend me, but he doesn’t have a poker face. So now I don’t get him gifts at all, he just buys everything he wants. He does get me ones though and he knocks it out if the park, so I’m not sure what I would do if I didn’t like them.

No. My DH used to just get me a gift card for a spa that was not particularly convenient to get to for every birthday or holiday, which was not great. But I said thank you and just tried to find a time to get to it. Over time I would give hints and then flat-out lists to get what I wanted instead, and now I get what I want.

All this to say: it's rude to say anything other than thank you for a gift, but that doesn't mean crappy gifts are a life sentence.

I wait a while (like a month or two) and then if it was important I mention it as "next time I would like something more x or less y".

No.

My xH would intentionally buy things he knew I wouldn’t like as a passive-aggressive jab at me. I didn’t say anything because it would just play into his game.

My current bf is such a sweetheart, I’d never want to hurt his feelings. I feel the same way I do with my kids - even if they get me the ugliest jewelry in the world, I’ll proudly wear it because it signifies so much more.

No I don't say anything. I'm just glad he is thinking of me.

Early in our marriage I bought my wife a whole bunch of Christmas presents, only one of which she liked. I had spent a long time shopping for them. From then on I just ask her what she wants.

I usually ask for the receipt so I can return. I also remind him every.single.year to not buy me anything for Christmas, etc. I have everything I want. All this gifting once you are married a long time is crazy.

No. Who gets a gift and then says, "I don't like it"?

Rude.

I have told my husband over the years that I don't care for flowers as much as other gifts because it seems like a lot of money to spend on something so short-lived. But do I say it right after he hands me a bouquet? No.

It's only happened twice. Both times I didn't say anything. It wasn't worth the possible hurt feelings. But these were not high cost items. If dh spent a lot of money on something I didn't like I would speak up because I wouldn't want to waste the money.

Those of you who are happily in a committed relationship......do you say something when your partners gets a gift for you that you don't like?