The rare unanimous DCUM unicorn has appeared here. Make note of it, OP. Do not ignore. What are you going to do?

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Anonymous wrote:RUN. That never gets better.

Listen to the above poster. Married a guy like this and the silent treatments only got longer and worse. We ended up divorcing after 6 1/2 years. It was horrible during the entire marriage. RUN, NOW and run fast

+3. This style of communication has so many other flags associated. For any relationship, romantic or otherwise

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months. We get along great and have really good time together. We recently had our first fight and he had been giving me the silent treatment for 3 days. I’ve never dealt with this before. How do I handle? Is everything just over? We really having a great time up until this point.

Get out. Seriously. I once posted about being furious for being ignored fir several days. Agree it is a form of emotional abuse, passive aggressive manipulation to isolate and withhold affection/respect/engagement in retaliation. Also people like this are crappy communicators and cowards. Adults address the conflict, resolve, and move on.

5months is right around when true Colors start to show. Also it could be that since I found out he was cheating, he is flipping the script on you and projecting since he is -1 woman in his selfish lineup of women and things are going to need to move into serious territory with you pretty soon so he is freaking out about stalling.

Run! That’s abuse. And it’s only going to get worse.

Signed,
Someone who married that type and is now happily divorced

Anonymous wrote:RUN. That never gets better.

Listen to the above poster. Married a guy like this and the silent treatments only got longer and worse. We ended up divorcing after 6 1/2 years. It was horrible during the entire marriage. RUN, NOW and run fast

Here’s your sign... should be obvious. First fight and he shows his true colors, tell him it’s over and move on.

Anonymous wrote:This is why you date people. He was on his best behavior and now he is showing you who he really is. Get out now. He is showing his true colors and it will only get worse.

+1

Exactly this. Do not “try to work it out.“ He is showing you who he is and you do not want to be with someone like this for the long-haul.

I have been with my dh for 21 years, married for 15—we have never once given each other silent treatment. It’s not a kind or constructive form of criticism. 3 hours to get your thoughts straight? Fine. 3 days? Huge red flag. Run as fast as you can, do not marry this man

Anonymous wrote:This is why you date people. He was on his best behavior and now he is showing you who he really is. Get out now. He is showing his true colors and it will only get worse.

This. Run, OP. if you’ve tried to communicate with him and he is punishing you by silence and emotional withdrawal, it’s just going to get worse and worse. Cut your losses NOW!

This is a form of emotional abuse. And a huge red flag. He’s emotionally immature.

Leave now. Walk away. Don’t care how great he seems otherwise. Five months is nothing.

“I need to end this relationship now. I can’t be with someone who thinks it’s okay to give the silent treatment. I wish you all the best. Good-bye.”

move on. i dated a guy like this and I had never experienced it before. It got worse and worse, he would find offense and small things, then do really cruel things to punish me, and keep me in a state of anxiety. its incredibly immature behavior. I broke up and never looked back. you should as well.

This is bully behavior. Move on.

This is why you date people. He was on his best behavior and now he is showing you who he really is. Get out now. He is showing his true colors and it will only get worse.

RUN. That never gets better.

My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 months. We get along great and have really good time together. We recently had our first fight and he had been giving me the silent treatment for 3 days. I’ve never dealt with this before. How do I handle? Is everything just over? We really having a great time up until this point.