I hate that they paint this to be just a women’s issue. My husband and I are both struggling. I know many other men doing their share also struggling. Painting this in black and white terms as a problem that only impacts women is not accurate.

Anonymous wrote:I hate that they paint this to be just a women’s issue. My husband and I are both struggling. I know many other men doing their share also struggling. Painting this in black and white terms as a problem that only impacts women is not accurate.

Anonymous wrote:^^^Yes, but the problem with just "hanging in there" is that the systemic failures are being disproportionately borne by moms & kids (and of course much more disadvantaged groups both within and outside this category). But everyone is so eff'ing exhausted, they can't do anything about it in terms of pushing systemic change. Vicious circle.

(Not a slam! I am exactly in the same position.)

Anonymous wrote:OMG this. We are lucky in many ways -- we are both employed, my kid is old enough that she can manage some of her DL on her own, we haven't gotten sick, I can WFH. But I haven't been able to really focus on work for a year, because I'm the primary supervisor of DL, like 90 percent. My husband bitches about it all the time, but half the time, he's in another room on a conference call or a Zoom meeting. I am ALWAYS in the same room as my kid all day. And I do all the meal planning and cooking and most of the cleaning, and all the keeping track of school stuff, and it's just so draining. I get through one day, and I have to wake up and do it all over again the next day, and the next day, and the next day. I want to check into a hotel by the beach for a week and not talk to anyone.