Anonymous wrote:I stress starve and boredom eat. So last March-April, lost a bunch of weight. As the pandemic became more “normal”, I started gaining it back and then some like so many others have.

Good description. I followed the same pattern. Though I think it’s less about boredom eating for me, than it is in my normal times I’d skip a few meals because of being busy and running around with the kids. So some nights I’d eat lightly or some days I’d skip lunch. These days we’re just home all the time so I’m always making full dinners and such. It’s never a night where I feed the kids sandwiches and just skip myself or have a bowl of cereal or something. I lost about 5 lbs at the start of this, and have put on 15 since.

I stress starve and boredom eat. So last March-April, lost a bunch of weight. As the pandemic became more “normal”, I started gaining it back and then some like so many others have.

I would be if not for wine and antidepressant. Can’t eat when anxious or sad.

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Anonymous wrote:

My initial response when reading this post was, no when I'm depressed I get fatter.

I can say with 109% certainty if I lost a child i would lose the will to do everything, including eat.

I'm sorry. I have no idea how you manage to even function. I can't imagine anything worse.

You don't know that. Grief is really unpredictable.

Why yes, yes I do.

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My initial response when reading this post was, no when I'm depressed I get fatter.

I can say with 109% certainty if I lost a child i would lose the will to do everything, including eat.

I'm sorry. I have no idea how you manage to even function. I can't imagine anything worse.

You don't know that. Grief is really unpredictable.

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I've lost a significant amount of weight while grieving my child. Trust me, no one wishes for this.

The idea that weight loss is always good is really dangerous.

My initial response when reading this post was, no when I'm depressed I get fatter.

I can say with 109% certainty if I lost a child inwould.lose the will to do everything, including eat.

I'm sorry. I have no idea how you manage to even function. I can't imagine anything worse.

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I've lost a significant amount of weight while grieving my child. Trust me, no one wishes for this.

The idea that weight loss is always good is really dangerous.

Agreed. The most depressed I've ever been, I lost 15 pounds and my hair started thinning. I was dropping weight because I did not feel I deserved food, and had intense anxiety that kept me from sleeping or sitting still.

But many people in my life kept telling me how great I looked and saying they were jealous of my weight loss. It was really messed up.

I've lost a significant amount of weight while grieving my child. Trust me, no one wishes for this.

The idea that weight loss is always good is really dangerous.

I have this. I take anti anxiety meds as necessary. It's great when I'm losing weight I want to lose but I have a history of disordered eating and being very thin is not a good place for me emotionally. I have a specific weight that I don't let myself slip below. Protein shakes and smoothies are good for getting calories when I don't want to eat.

Consider it your superpower! I have a friend like this. She loses a ton of weight when she's stressed out.

I, on the other hand, eat my feelings so that has never, ever happened to me.

Anonymous wrote:No, actually I’m gaining weight. Good for you.

I need to see this. I laughed so hard.

Same problem for me.

I always lose weight when depressed. It destroys my appetite. Though in my case I usually don't want to lose it.

I wish

No, actually I’m gaining weight. Good for you.

Apart from breastfeeding the only other time where weight just fell off me was after a bad breakup. I was stress eating in March and probably gained a couple of pounds and held steady til January when I hit my limit distancing. I’m down ten pounds and I needed to lose it. It’s a combination of diminished appetite, lack of interest in cooking (for me food is celebratory) and anxiety. I’m happy about the result but sad otherwise and it’s just so weird.