What's your worry if you don't participate?

Anonymous wrote:No. Do not participate. Don't respond. Don't do anything.

this. I’m paranoid enough about lawsuits and false accusations that I cut off this kind of thing instantaneously. Like the time I hosted a playdate and when the mom dropped the little girl off, she told me “your husband shouldn’t talk to her because she doesn’t like strange men.” Hello, no more playdates ever with that walking false accusation in the making!

No. Do not participate. Don't respond. Don't do anything.

Absolutely not.
I don’t cook for or waste my time on ingrates. Why are they even asking you?

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Anonymous wrote:No, and if I was the recipient, I wouldn’t eat food from you anyway.

Possibly, but she gave her sister my contact info for the signup genius.

I am sure she just gave a whole bunch of email addresses to her sister without checking.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t participate. And a bag of groceries isn’t a good substitute, you are being vindictive. Better to sit this one out than seek revenge for a perceived or real slight.

I’m not trying to be vindictive. If she would accept restaurant food, I’d send a gift card to Door Dash or another service.

But that’s not the request so move on. Presumably a meal train means her family has an issue that limits time to prep meals. Sending a bag of groceries doesn’t solve that.

it is the thought that counts. Participate with a very basic meal and move on.

I think it's fine to sit this one out! If you really want to send something, maybe fruit or packaged snacks. I agree with the pp that a bag of groceries could be interpreted as passive aggressive. (Personally it makes no sense to me that restaurant food would be unsafe and homemade food unsafe. Is this person afraid of people who work in restaurant s?)

Anonymous wrote:No, and if I was the recipient, I wouldn’t eat food from you anyway.

Possibly, but she gave her sister my contact info for the signup genius.

Anonymous wrote:Don’t participate. And a bag of groceries isn’t a good substitute, you are being vindictive. Better to sit this one out than seek revenge for a perceived or real slight.

I’m not trying to be vindictive. If she would accept restaurant food, I’d send a gift card to Door Dash or another service.

No.

Don’t participate. And a bag of groceries isn’t a good substitute, you are being vindictive. Better to sit this one out than seek revenge for a perceived or real slight.

No, and if I was the recipient, I wouldn’t eat food from you anyway.

No. She probably won't eat it anyway if you do.

a) the recipient accused your cooking of making them ill in the past.
B) the organizer specified home cooked foods, no restaurant gift cards or restaurant food because the recipient is afraid of getting COVID.

I know that it was not my cooking that was the problem. No one else got sick. She didn’t even go to a doctor so it was never confirmed food poisoning. And the onset of her symptoms didn’t match the timeline for getting food poisoning from that particular food.

I’m thinking of just sending a bag of uncooked basic groceries and moving on.