Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 10:08     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is her transportation? If the bus schedule is causing it, change the start time to work with the bus. If it's just a bad habit, tell her to knock it off.


I’m the previous poster and the bus schedule should not be an issue. I use the bus for my work for many years and I adjusted my time so I would always be at work on time. Not the other way around.


DP. I agree with you that this how it should work, but in reality it’s not a frivolous issue. If the nanny has to take a bus route that only runs every hour (either because the line she takes runs infrequently, or because of the timing of connections), she’s in a position where she either takes the earlier bus and then stands outside in the cold for the better part of an hour until 9 am (because sitting in a coffee shop for an hour isn’t an option during covid), or she takes the later one and risks being a few minutes late if the bus is running behind. If this were part of the issue, OP agreeing to back up the start time to 8:30 and pay the nanny for that extra time might be a workable solution for everyone.


Nanny drives.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 10:01     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
OP-- just tell her that you need her at work by 9AM each morning. I don't know her age, but when I was in my twenties I was chronically late. I had a poor sense of time and didn't plan for contingencies (traffic, parking, getting directions, etc.).

I've learned to start everything a little sooner than absolutely necessary-- even if it makes me a bit early sometimes.

Anyway, I think she needs the clear message that there's a hard deadline of 9AM, so that she plans better.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:30     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:Do what I do with DH: back up the start time by 30 minutes. Tell her your schedule changed, and you need her to arrive by 8:30.


+1

BINGO. This woman has no regard for your time, because she thinks if you work from home, you must have a flexible schedule. That, and I am betting she has never worked an office job, so she doesn't understand that kind of punctuality and professionalism.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:27     Subject: Re:Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Are you okay with her showing up 10 minutes early and having her breakfast or a cup of coffee? If so, make it clear that you need her there no later than 9 and suggest she come a bit early so she can settle in for the day. I think it's unreasonable to ask her to sit in a cold car while she waits for it to turn 9 AM.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:22     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
I had this and didn’t make a big deal about it because I generally don’t make a big deal about little things like this. But it was an indicator that she was just not that serious about the job and there turned out to be a bunch off other problems. The nanny I replaced her with was often early and took her job much more seriously.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:16     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Do what I do with DH: back up the start time by 30 minutes. Tell her your schedule changed, and you need her to arrive by 8:30.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:15     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:What is her transportation? If the bus schedule is causing it, change the start time to work with the bus. If it's just a bad habit, tell her to knock it off.


I’m the previous poster and the bus schedule should not be an issue. I use the bus for my work for many years and I adjusted my time so I would always be at work on time. Not the other way around.


DP. I agree with you that this how it should work, but in reality it’s not a frivolous issue. If the nanny has to take a bus route that only runs every hour (either because the line she takes runs infrequently, or because of the timing of connections), she’s in a position where she either takes the earlier bus and then stands outside in the cold for the better part of an hour until 9 am (because sitting in a coffee shop for an hour isn’t an option during covid), or she takes the later one and risks being a few minutes late if the bus is running behind. If this were part of the issue, OP agreeing to back up the start time to 8:30 and pay the nanny for that extra time might be a workable solution for everyone.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:11     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Yes you should if it matters to you. But you should also consider whether you actually need her to show up at 9 on the dot. Flexibility to arrive 5-15 minutes late is pretty standard in the working world, so you need to consider whether you really have to take that away. If it was 15 minutes every day I might feel differently.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:11     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:What is her transportation? If the bus schedule is causing it, change the start time to work with the bus. If it's just a bad habit, tell her to knock it off.


She drives to us daily
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:10     Subject: Re:Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
I’d phrase it as clarifying for her that you start at 9 so need her there and ready to go by 8:55 for full hand off.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:10     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
^^ knock it off is obviously not the way to phrase is, but let her know that her start time is 9 because you log in to work at 9 on the dot, so she can't; be walking in the door at 9, she needs to be starting work at 9.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:10     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Anonymous wrote:What is her transportation? If the bus schedule is causing it, change the start time to work with the bus. If it's just a bad habit, tell her to knock it off.


I’m the previous poster and the bus schedule should not be an issue. I use the bus for my work for many years and I adjusted my time so I would always be at work on time. Not the other way around.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:09     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Of course you should say something to her. Remind her that her start time is at 9o’clock sharp and she needs to be there by nine ready to work.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:09     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
What is her transportation? If the bus schedule is causing it, change the start time to work with the bus. If it's just a bad habit, tell her to knock it off.
Anonymous
Post 01/21/2021 09:07     Subject: Nanny is late everyday - what to do?
Our nanny is supposed to arrive at 9 everyday, but she is always late. On a normal day, she arrives around 905. And 1-2 times a week, it’s 910. Once in a while she forgets her keys, set her alarm, etc and arrives at 915. If I were going into my office I’d have said something to her a while ago because it would mess up my commute, but I’m working at home right now. Also, if she ranged and sometimes showed up a few minutes early and sometimes a few minutes late, I wouldn’t care. But EVERY day she comes after 9. Should I say something to her, especially if I’m working at home for the foreseeable future? If I say something, how should I phrase it?