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Anonymous wrote:I had a similar fear with telling my parents about #3. I told them as part of a call (no cutesy announcement) and they were just like "thats great honey, we're happy for you, how are you feeling" and 2min later we were talking about other things again. Assuming you can afford the kids and you aren't appearing to already be at your breaking point with the kids you have, i just don't think anyone cares that much by the time you're on #3 (though they'll care about the kid once its there)

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No one is going to care as much as you think they will. Just call them and tell them.

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You should know this OP. This isn't your first rodeo.

And on that note, don't be surprised if people aren't over the moon thrilled for you and are nonchalent about it. The novelty of (another) pregnancy is quite the same as when it was your first. Signed, mom of 4.

How about a call? That’s what normal ppl do

Anonymous wrote:Wait until the baby is born!

I would totally do this especially since it’s easier now with covid.

Wait until the baby is born!

I just told them over FaceTime. I held up the ultrasound. End of story.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your parents are going to be unenthusiastic or just dicks, I'd make a little video of you telling your two kids and send that. They wont' be rude about the grandbabies they love seeming happy (or adorably befuddled, or whatever).

I wouldn't try to come up with some clever grand reveal for a third baby, not because they're not important but because if you think the people hearing it are going to be less than thrilled, you should realize they'll probably crap all over the method since they can't (/shouldn't) crap all over the content.

OP here. I like this idea. We're planning to video our kid's and they'll be thrilled.

I truly can't explain why this is so difficult for me but it is. I think some of it is that they will all be on the phone telling every 2nd cousin and random person instantly and I don't like that.

I totally get it! I know my mom is gossipy so I prepped and prepped her that we were telling her early and didn't want her to tell everyone in the family, to the point where she actually told no one until after the baby came. But we told FIL the same day and he posted it to facebook and tagged both of us (and most of that side of the family) in his announcement before we got home from his house. D'oh.

Anonymous wrote:If your parents are going to be unenthusiastic or just dicks, I'd make a little video of you telling your two kids and send that. They wont' be rude about the grandbabies they love seeming happy (or adorably befuddled, or whatever).

I wouldn't try to come up with some clever grand reveal for a third baby, not because they're not important but because if you think the people hearing it are going to be less than thrilled, you should realize they'll probably crap all over the method since they can't (/shouldn't) crap all over the content.

OP here. I like this idea. We're planning to video our kid's and they'll be thrilled.

I truly can't explain why this is so difficult for me but it is. I think some of it is that they will all be on the phone telling every 2nd cousin and random person instantly and I don't like that.

Anonymous wrote:I had a similar fear with telling my parents about #3. I told them as part of a call (no cutesy announcement) and they were just like "thats great honey, we're happy for you, how are you feeling" and 2min later we were talking about other things again. Assuming you can afford the kids and you aren't appearing to already be at your breaking point with the kids you have, i just don't think anyone cares that much by the time you're on #3 (though they'll care about the kid once its there)

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No one is going to care as much as you think they will. Just call them and tell them.

Don’t say anything until you get the job. Why would you?

I had a similar fear with telling my parents about #3. I told them as part of a call (no cutesy announcement) and they were just like "thats great honey, we're happy for you, how are you feeling" and 2min later we were talking about other things again. Assuming you can afford the kids and you aren't appearing to already be at your breaking point with the kids you have, i just don't think anyone cares that much by the time you're on #3 (though they'll care about the kid once its there)

If your parents are going to be unenthusiastic or just dicks, I'd make a little video of you telling your two kids and send that. They wont' be rude about the grandbabies they love seeming happy (or adorably befuddled, or whatever).

I wouldn't try to come up with some clever grand reveal for a third baby, not because they're not important but because if you think the people hearing it are going to be less than thrilled, you should realize they'll probably crap all over the method since they can't (/shouldn't) crap all over the content.

Anonymous wrote:I can't imagine being a grown adult with two kids already and being this worried about the reaction of extended family. Who cares. Send them a text that you're expecting a baby in X months.

Also get rid of Facebook? Good lord.

I can't imagine being a grown adult with two kids already and being this worried about the reaction of extended family. Who cares. Send them a text that you're expecting a baby in X months.

Before you tell them definitely change your Facebook settings so you have to approve anything for your page before it can be posted. Or take down the ability to post altogether!

I would just make a bunch of calls to let them know and if you feel you need an excuse to wait and don’t mind sharing, tell them things were touch and go in the early weeks and you felt more comfortable waiting. If anyone gives you grief to your face that would truly be insensitive. Lots of possible responses. Could just sort of say “uh huh” and move on or “this was what we decided based on our situation and I hope you’ll respect that - we are excited to tell you today.”

We waited a while to announce our pregnancy. We're excited and the baby was much wanted, we just didn't want to share until we had the NIPT results back (I'm 12 weeks, AMA and had lots of bleeding initially). Our families aren't going to be happy with us that we didn't share immediately. I think our families will judge it being our 3rd baby and that there's a pandemic going on now too. We saw our parents for Christmas (we all quarantined), so I know they'll wonder why we didn't share then. Our parents will love the baby and are good grandparents but I don't think the initial reaction will be good.

Any ideas for telling? They're all long distance, so it won't be in person.

I'm also in line for a senior management promotion, so I can't have anything posted on facebook about the pregnancy until I get the job. My inlaws' family is all going to try posting immediately on facebook and my wall about it...

Does anyone else DREAD telling family? Friends are very easy to tell for some reason.