OP here vacation for the parents. They are 16 , the boys. He is close to me but I’m angry at them I guess I don’t want him to think it’s because of him

We had a similar experience many years ago. DD’s friend was slated to go into inpatient for an eating disorder in two weeks. The mom didn’t tell us and we were already planning on taking her to USVI with us. I found out on the plane. I was pissed. It was so stressful being responsible for this girl eating (not binging) and not purging. Even DD was annoyed. The friendship didn’t survive.

My sister attempted suicide when I was a kid. Regardless of therapy, medication, etc, a few months is still a really risky period.

I have a lot of sympathy for everyone in that family (including the parents' potential need to get away and regroup), but I would not take this on as a friend. I might agree to a one night sleepover if the parents were also in town in case of emergency, but I wouldn't agree to this. It's not safe for the friend or your DS.

Anonymous wrote:What kind of treatment has he been getting since the attempt? I agree that the is is potentially a lot to take on, but if his parents are looking to dump him someplace so they can go away for a week, he probably has a pretty awful home life and your house could potentially be a respite for him.

This would be my thinking too. Just not enough information here, but often a good friend a family can be a godsend to a teen with a troubled home life.

Anonymous wrote:We don't have enough information.

Why are the parents going out of town in a Pandemic/

This child needs help sometimes a village helps.

Enough with the village crap. This kid needs a village as the parents failed him. There is absolutely no reason for both parents to go away during a pandemic when a child just tried to commit suicide. This is why kids do this stuff. Its the only way to get their parents attention and even then it doesn't work.

Out if town to take care of dying parents?

Or for vacation?

Anonymous wrote:At least you can honestly tell the kid that it’s not him, it’s his parents.

+1. I'm not sure what I would do but except in an emergency and only one parent should go, there are probably reasons why this kid is suicidal. I would only agree if he had gotten mental health treatment, on medication and I could take him to therapy (or make him do it online). This kid needs someone to love him. However, this is insane to leave your suicidal kid when he needs you the most. The kid probably should be hospitalized if he hasn't.

Wow, shitty parents.

At least you can honestly tell the kid that it’s not him, it’s his parents.

How old is the kid? How close are you with the kid (separate from your son)? How much time does the kid spend at your house usually?

We don't have enough information.

Why are the parents going out of town in a Pandemic/

This child needs help sometimes a village helps.

Not a chance.

If it was an 1-2 hours so the BFF can be comforted - sure. So their parents can dump a suicidal kid on you for a week? WOW, no.

What kind of treatment has he been getting since the attempt? I agree that the is is potentially a lot to take on, but if his parents are looking to dump him someplace so they can go away for a week, he probably has a pretty awful home life and your house could potentially be a respite for him.

Wow seems like this is when the kid would need his parents. I’d ask her how he’s doing with regard to the attempt.

So the parents can go out of town. The boy is close to us but still seems like a lot to take on. This isn’t first issue either. Thoughts?