Grandparents, aunts and uncle

Anonymous wrote:Sometimes I wonder if my mother truly loves her grandchildren or if they are merely a reflection of her and possessions to brag about.

My grandmother and my MIL truly love our kids and delight in their every word, burb or giggle. I have no doubt that they would sell everything if my kids needs the money (or organ!). Both would die for my kids. Sadly, I doubt my own mother would reschedule a tennis date for them.

Just my DH and I, the rest do self serving type of love.

Sometimes I wonder if my mother truly loves her grandchildren or if they are merely a reflection of her and possessions to brag about.

My grandmother and my MIL truly love our kids and delight in their every word, burb or giggle. I have no doubt that they would sell everything if my kids needs the money (or organ!). Both would die for my kids. Sadly, I doubt my own mother would reschedule a tennis date for them.

Whole world love my children, including Jesus!

I think of “truly love” as total unconditional love. People who would sell their houses if my kids needs an operation or would donate a kidney. And to truly love someone, you have to know them.

With that criteria, just their one grandfather, Godparents and longtime nanny. Although aunts, uncles, cousins, other grandparents all say they love them.

My kids have DH and myself. Their grandparents on both sides have too many personal things going on that they have not gotten close to them and are not in a place to be our backup. Aunts and uncles also have their own lives and own kids. I envy people who have extended families that have their back. In our family it’s every man for himself.

Truly love and know?

For us it’s just my mother and their nanny. I know DH’s parents and brothers say they love them but it’s not the same since they’re far away and don’t know them.

Just us and one set of grandparents who live out of the country. My parents/sibling have little interest as does my husband's family. My MIL did but she passed.

Their grandparents, and my sister.

2 parents, 4 grandparents, 2 uncles, 2 cousins

Isn’t that a pretty common #?

Dh and I, our parents, their God parents, our siblings and their many cousins.

I also wish my kid was truly loved by more people. It's us, her grandparents, and a couple (but not all) of her aunts and uncles). And even that feels insufficient because her grandparents, for instance, sometimes love her in a very self-serving way. They don't often see her as an independent person and mostly think of what she can do for them. It's still love, but I'm not sure how sustaining it is.

I do feel my partner and I love her fully as her own person, with acceptance and respect. But I do hope that we can help facilitate more people getting to see her that way. So far she has not had a teacher or friend who could have that kind of love for her, but hopefully she will.

I agree! With my kids it’s their Grandparents, aunts and uncles (which is so great, I want to be more loving toward my nieces and nephews), and teachers.

My parents, my younger brother and my older child’s former nanny who is till very much in his life and the Godmother to our baby.

I’m of the school of thought that a child can’t have too many people who truly love them.

In my child’s life, he’s deeply loved by DH’s parents and his Godparents (my best friend and her husband). I wish he had more.