he is s douche. plain and simple you can tell your DD that.

You can tell her what you would do, but be careful, because there's a good chance she'll stay with them and then there will be a wedge between you. Just affirm that you know she values herself and that you trust her and worry about her at the same time.

If your daughter told you, she's asking for your advice. It is definitely cheating and I would tell her to run. Dating is a tryout and her boyfriend failed. He needs to work on impulse control and boundaries. The fact that his ex was to one to reveal this, as opposed to him, makes it worse.

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Anonymous wrote:Tell your daughter not to tell you everything about her relationships. They might work it out, but you'll hate him forever.

You’re right. I’m not sure if I will ever trust him anymore. The issue came to a crisis because they were supposed to leave tomorrow to head back to his family where they have been since COVID. I don’t want her going there, even though his family has been lovely to her.

Stay out of it. It’s not about your trust, you need to let your daughter make her own decision without your input.

So what do you think about sexting? What does it signify?

Anonymous wrote:Tell your daughter not to tell you everything about her relationships. They might work it out, but you'll hate him forever.

You’re right. I’m not sure if I will ever trust him anymore. The issue came to a crisis because they were supposed to leave tomorrow to head back to his family where they have been since COVID. I don’t want her going there, even though his family has been lovely to her.

OP, I feel the same way you do--it's cheating in my eyes. What's important though is how does your daughter feel? I'd listen more than talk. Let her express her feelings. It will help her navigate the situation if you're a safe place to share. So sorry she's going through this.

As her mother, I'd have no problem telling her this was unacceptable. I'd teach her to value herself and not put up with something like this from any man.

Rather than telling her anything, I'd ask her how it makes her feel. Give advice according to her feelings. If she seems unphased by it, then once and only once you could say something like, "If it were me, I'd feel like he had been cheating, but I know you might feel differently." Then drop it.

teach her to move on from drama fast.

Anonymous wrote:Tell your daughter not to tell you everything about her relationships. They might work it out, but you'll hate him forever.

Agree with this. She needs to vent to her girlfriends. And I think she should dump him, but that’s just my opinion.

Stay out of it.

Anonymous wrote:Tell your daughter not to tell you everything about her relationships. They might work it out, but you'll hate him forever.

+100

Tell your daughter not to tell you everything about her relationships. They might work it out, but you'll hate him forever.

My daughter is visiting with her boyfriend and just found out he was sexting his former girlfriend this past October. The former girlfriend let her know. I don’t know what to make of this. Maybe I’m old fashioned but it feels like cheating to me. What advice should I be giving my daughter about this? It definitely lowers my opinion of him significantly. I don’t understand why someone would be tempted to do such a thing.