Cash, check, giftcards. Who cares what’s allowed? These people work hard and disgusting jobs for no pay. I gave gifts of money sporadically not just during the holidays.

Anonymous wrote:Gifts aren’t usually allowed beyond treats or even a meal for staff as a group - holiday cookies/cakes, or a pizza lunch, for example.

Not allowed, but they will avert and you should give them especially to the people who take care of your loved one. They are not paid a lot. You want to be in their good graces.

Ask your favorite caregivers where they would most like lunch catered from. If I recall Chick-fil-A has strong political afiliations. Correct me if I am wrong. I know I once wanted to get that for the front office staff at my kids' school and they said "please, no" but maybe it was a different place. Anyhoo, they liked Panera, so i got that.

My mom is in an assisted living. Due to the large volumes of food gifts they get this time of year, we did a Chick fil A lunch in January for one of their staff meetings. Everyone thanked us. And during this year we take goodies about every few months. Also, we had another resident’s family set up a go fund me for them but there can be tax consequences with money gifts.

Also with the pandemic, how are you going to get the money to them?

Try to avoid sugary treats or keep them to a minimum. Every nurse I know says they gain so much over the holidays and they both love and totally resent those gifts. Fruit baskets are always welcome. You could also send over finger sandwiches from great sandwich places. Offer both meat and vegetarian options and if you are feeling fancy you could offer some gluten free sandwiches too.

My MIL just did her gifts for my FIL’s nurses. He’s at a nonprofit home in Europe which works a little differently than ones here. Cash gifts aren’t allowed so she made a big contribution to the nonprofit foundation that sponsors the home and put together gift baskets for his nurses and for the front desk staff that handles the COVID testing for visitors and other stuff. I think she chose fancy cookies, chocolates, and teas, which in our culture is what we would give people like aunts/uncles at Christmas time (so it’s less impersonal than it sounds).

Find out if there is a gift limit and then write checks, give cash, or give gift cards. They are not paid well.

Gifts aren’t usually allowed beyond treats or even a meal for staff as a group - holiday cookies/cakes, or a pizza lunch, for example.

Management might have a holiday fund to which you can contribute. Our family also ordered lunch for staff -- again check with management on this.

Checks in envelopes if large amounts. Cash in envelopes if less than $25.

Supermarket gift cards

Mom is in Memory care with advanced dementia. This is her first year there (what a year to be there right)? What do you give staff as a holiday gift? So many to give to so not sure how to approach. Any suggestions?