Anonymous wrote:I'll play, 45 year old woman here. The biggest difference for me is age. I want some around my age, for LTR
For NSA, he can be older as long as he is in good shape and groomed.
For both purposes he needs to be tall, smart and educated.

again, why does he need to be smart and educated for just sex? I wouldn't care if he was dumb as a rock if he had a rock hard body, and could go for a while.

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Anonymous wrote:I fit your standards, OP, but date 20s.

Barf.

DC is a great city for a professional black man to date. Tinder ands OKCupid make it easy.

I'll play, 45 year old woman here. The biggest difference for me is age. I want some around my age, for LTR
For NSA, he can be older as long as he is in good shape and groomed.
For both purposes he needs to be tall, smart and educated.

Anonymous wrote:Oh please I'm over 50, "curvy" (aka overweight), and post divorce have met a nice widowed father in mid 40s and a 50+ lawyer who's divorced. They met me in "real life," which is the only place to find me.

Get off line and you'll find higher quality options -- NOT guys your age shopping for body parts on Tinder who end marrying girls 20 years younger who enticed them with hooker poses on Tinder.

OP here, great for you. I do both and have met wonderful men in person and online. I don't have a problem attracting men. My question was rather specific, do you have different qualifications for a NSA relationship. If you are not into that, great, you do you.

Anonymous wrote:Any woman looking for a NSA relationship has her pick of men in the DC area. Especially with the steady stream of business travelers.

She says she wants something other than a NSA...

Any woman looking for a NSA relationship has her pick of men in the DC area. Especially with the steady stream of business travelers.

Oh please I'm over 50, "curvy" (aka overweight), and post divorce have met a nice widowed father in mid 40s and a 50+ lawyer who's divorced. They met me in "real life," which is the only place to find me.

Get off line and you'll find higher quality options -- NOT guys your age shopping for body parts on Tinder who end marrying girls 20 years younger who enticed them with hooker poses on Tinder.

Anonymous wrote:why does he need to be successful if you are just with him for the sex?

No. She had the “just sex” friend in her affair.

Now that she’s divorced she wants a long-term relationship NOT a FWB, but she will not be able to land one anywhere near the caliber of the married men willing to f@ck her with no strings and not actually have to “date her”. She’s has an inflated sense of what she can get on the market since those guys never would have dated her if they were single.

It’s a rude awakening of sorts.

Anonymous wrote:I fit your standards, OP, but date 20s.

Barf.

why does he need to be successful if you are just with him for the sex?

I fit your standards, OP, but date 20s.

The hot guys you are describing are dating a 20 or 30 something young women . You are gonna have to deal with dad bod, balding and short on cash because of child support payments

Anonymous wrote:You may be by yourself for a while as you are seeking a unicorn.

I thought the same. And, a man that meets her standards will be dating late 30s/early 40s, not his own demographic.

It would be easier for in a FWB, sex- no strings, not long-term (I assume this was affairs she was in while married)- now that she’s free and looking long-term she most likely will not get the same caliber that just wanted to f&ck and not actually have to date.

You may be by yourself for a while as you are seeking a unicorn.

I am pretty clear online that I am looking for a long-term relationship but many men online aren't. I get that and don't have a problem with it as long as a guy is upfront about it. I move on.

I have had a FWB relationship in the past but my standards are very different than those for a long-term relationship. It's funny reading some of the responses on the other thread from the over 50 men that want it every night. I have only ran across one guy that could keep up that kind of pace a at 50 and he was a crossfit champion.

So, for the other women who are dating in their late 40s and 50s, are you looking for something different in a NSA? For me, the guy has be in great shape, tall, sensual, and successful.