Anonymous wrote:That should say terrorized her by purposely sitting near the nut free table with Nutella and peanut butter.
I'm so sorry that happened, OP. I'm the first PP with the younger kid. We had better experiences that I want to share, though they don't change your experience.
The first was that in K, one classmate had a serious nut allergy. We were of course asked not to send nut products. What I liked, though, was that the teacher allowed the student to choose a friend to join him at the allergy table for lunch, which made it a special thing that everybody wanted to do, instead of an exclusionary experience for him. No child wanted nuts in their lunch because then they weren't eligible to join their friend. I saw something similar happen in 1st grade with a classmate who had a disability; he had an aide, but the teacher got the other students involved in a positive way.
Separately, in 1st grade my child was being shoved off the bus seat by some same-aged kids -- they sit 3 to a bus seat and the 2 kids didn't want to share. I asked the classroom teacher for help and it was resolved that day. The teacher asked my child whether my child wanted to be present when the teacher talked to the offending kids, or not (my child did). There was an apology, some kind of consequence like sitting out a game, and the shoving stopped.
Again, I don't doubt your child had an awful experience. I would be furious, as I'm sure you are.