Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:22     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.


I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different



This tends to be more of a millennial thing...the open stuff, polyamory.

Most guys in the late 40-range and above (minus the fetish cuqold guys and the gay ones who use wife as a beard) are horrified at the concept of their wives getting D from somebody else. They talk about beating the crap out of a guy that did this with their wives.



Really ? Millennial are all in on open relationships etc ?



Percentage wise they are more tolerant of it and younger therapists are also less supportive of traditional marriages.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:22     Subject: Re:If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different


You need to do a lot of work on yourself and find new friends. What kind of emotionally stunted, immature adult cheats on their spouse then sits around and talks about it with their friends? Yuck on so many levels.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 14:21     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.


I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different



This tends to be more of a millennial thing...the open stuff, polyamory.

Most guys in the late 40-range and above (minus the fetish cuqold guys and the gay ones who use wife as a beard) are horrified at the concept of their wives getting D from somebody else. They talk about beating the crap out of a guy that did this with their wives.



Really ? Millennial are all in on open relationships etc ?

Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 13:59     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.


I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different


This is hypothetical. You all might be surprised to find you feel very differently if your spouse actually did cheat. Also, if someone is so lonely in a marriage, why not divorce?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 13:48     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.


I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different



This tends to be more of a millennial thing...the open stuff, polyamory.

Most guys in the late 40-range and above (minus the fetish cuqold guys and the gay ones who use wife as a beard) are horrified at the concept of their wives getting D from somebody else. They talk about beating the crap out of a guy that did this with their wives.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 13:43     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
Anonymous wrote:I've never cheated. My ex had a really long affair. Once I found out, I consulted an attorney and immediately kicked him out, and filed for divorce. We had been living separately for 8 months when I started casually dating a guy. Ex found out, and went absolutely insane with jealousy.

So it was cool for him to cheat for years, but not for me to date while we were separated and well on our way to divorce.


That’s usually how it goes.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 13:42     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
I've never cheated. My ex had a really long affair. Once I found out, I consulted an attorney and immediately kicked him out, and filed for divorce. We had been living separately for 8 months when I started casually dating a guy. Ex found out, and went absolutely insane with jealousy.

So it was cool for him to cheat for years, but not for me to date while we were separated and well on our way to divorce.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 12:23     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.


I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different


If you don't care then why the lack of honesty?
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 12:21     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
Anonymous wrote:Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.


I have seen your post this before but I don't think it's true. I have cheated and so have several of my friends. The usual response is that we wouldn't care if she cheated. Most of us are lonely in marriage and the idea of being open about it sounds great.

I suppose if you have a passionate marriage it would be different
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 12:14     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
Most cheaters care. Which is why they cheat rather than saying "let's open our marriage." They want a monogamous spouse while they get to sleep around.

Men in particular. They love the idea of an open marriage, but once they realize their wife is going to get laid more than he is he throws a fit.

Cake, eating, etc.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 12:08     Subject: Re:If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
Anonymous wrote:I would care less than the average person since I understand you can cheat and still live your spouse


This sort of. I understand why people cheat and how it can be anything from childhood trauma to desperate loneliness. I wouldn’t go scorched earth but would hope my partner would get therapy and we could figure out together what is going on and if it is fixable.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 12:04     Subject: Re:If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
It's a relationship discussion board. The top two issues in marriage are money and sex/infidelity. It's just super common
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 11:46     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
What’s with all the cheating threads? Is this one person who recently got cheated on or something? Just seems like a lot recently.
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 11:44     Subject: Re:If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
I would care less than the average person since I understand you can cheat and still live your spouse
Anonymous
Post 12/13/2020 03:02     Subject: If you cheated and were caught do you care if your SO cheats too?
I think cheaters spend a lot of time on date apps or searching for other women/men to date/sleep with that they don't pay attention to their spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend to care if they cheated?