Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 18:07     Subject: Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
Anonymous wrote:If only brides and grooms put as much energy into the actual marriage as the do the dumb wedding and photo sessions. In the grand scheme, it’s so pointless. Fun, sure. But I’ve had more fun at some backyard BBQs.


Brides and grooms. It's not just women who are responsible for weddings. Even if the groom just nodded, he went along with every detail. He consigned. So if you thought your brother's wedding was dumb for some reason, that's on him, too.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 18:06     Subject: Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
Anonymous wrote:If you're worried, don't go. Op's complaint is completely legit. Op, is ridiculous that you had to put up with pressure. Everyone else piling-on against a small group of people standing in a field, and a couple saying, "I Do" --- chill. Not every thing is dangerous.


I spoke yesterday with a friend whose cousin had a "small, outdoor" wedding in upstate New York the Saturday after Thanksgiving. Eighteen out of 30 now have COVID. The hardest hit was a 22-year-old with no health problems who is now in ICU. They wore masks, it was outside...
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 18:05     Subject: Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
If only brides and grooms put as much energy into the actual marriage as the do the dumb wedding and photo sessions. In the grand scheme, it’s so pointless. Fun, sure. But I’ve had more fun at some backyard BBQs.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 18:03     Subject: Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
If you're worried, don't go. Op's complaint is completely legit. Op, is ridiculous that you had to put up with pressure. Everyone else piling-on against a small group of people standing in a field, and a couple saying, "I Do" --- chill. Not every thing is dangerous.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 17:58     Subject: Re:Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
Anonymous wrote:
Ugh. Literally no sympathy for 2021 brides and grooms.


I've been married for 32 years, and I feel very sorry for people getting married right now. The whole situation is such a shame for young couples. However, I think if I were in this situation, I would elope and have a big party in a year, when everyone could attend. I would not put my loved ones in a situation where they had to say no to me.


The writing was on the wall a little less than a year ago. You’ve had plenty of time to cancel or regroup.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 17:32     Subject: Re:Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
Anonymous wrote:I am so stressed about my stepsons wedding on NYE. I’m praying Northam helps me out and brings the limit down to 10 person gatherings.

I believe he cannot limit the number of people in the actual church for the actual wedding, correct?


Don’t go. Why do you need the governor to tell you that? You know it’s a bad idea.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 17:32     Subject: Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:Dear guests who don't want to attend:

Thank you for your honesty. I understand we are making different choices and that you don't like mine. Please don't make me feel guilty that I still need to move on with my life and don't ask me to reschedule or make me feel guilty for "not including" you


OP here. Nope, sorry. All we did was send back the reply card with “regrets.” We didn’t so much as text or call. We checked a box.

And then the phone calls and triangulated campaign started...


UGH. Not cool. Sorry you’re dealing with this, OP. 😒
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 17:31     Subject: Re:Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
Ugh. Literally no sympathy for 2021 brides and grooms.


I've been married for 32 years, and I feel very sorry for people getting married right now. The whole situation is such a shame for young couples. However, I think if I were in this situation, I would elope and have a big party in a year, when everyone could attend. I would not put my loved ones in a situation where they had to say no to me.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 17:30     Subject: Re:Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
I am so stressed about my stepsons wedding on NYE. I’m praying Northam helps me out and brings the limit down to 10 person gatherings.

I believe he cannot limit the number of people in the actual church for the actual wedding, correct?
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 17:23     Subject: Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
Ugh. Literally no sympathy for 2021 brides and grooms.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 15:01     Subject: Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
Anonymous wrote:Dear guests who don't want to attend:

Thank you for your honesty. I understand we are making different choices and that you don't like mine. Please don't make me feel guilty that I still need to move on with my life and don't ask me to reschedule or make me feel guilty for "not including" you


OP here. Nope, sorry. All we did was send back the reply card with “regrets.” We didn’t so much as text or call. We checked a box.

And then the phone calls and triangulated campaign started...
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 14:16     Subject: Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
Anonymous wrote:Dear guests who don't want to attend:

Thank you for your honesty. I understand we are making different choices and that you don't like mine. Please don't make me feel guilty that I still need to move on with my life and don't ask me to reschedule or make me feel guilty for "not including" you


Enjoy your super spreader event! Hope Grandma survives.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 14:04     Subject: Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
Dear guests who don't want to attend:

Thank you for your honesty. I understand we are making different choices and that you don't like mine. Please don't make me feel guilty that I still need to move on with my life and don't ask me to reschedule or make me feel guilty for "not including" you
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 13:43     Subject: Re:Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
When anyone declines any invitation, accept it graciously and without question.

I loathe hosts who pressure me.
Anonymous
Post 12/06/2020 13:18     Subject: Dear brides and grooms pressuring people to attend
No, your in-person “small” wedding is not “safe.”

When someone declines, accept it graciously. Don’t put up a fight and try to wheedle, whine, manipulate and bring people in to get your way.

When you pressure people who simply declined, you simply suck.