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Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you?

I'm 39. I have a 7 year old. He's 41.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar position 5 years ago and I had two kids. I was in love and he was amazing with my two kids so I agreed to have another child even though I “was done”. Well, two years later we had twins and now I can’t imagine life without them even though it’s been pretty exhausting given I’m 38. A great guy is hard to find when you are a single mom.

Thanks for this. Any tips for successfully blending families? Or how to know if they’d be good to your existing kids? I’m really nervous about that.

What is wrong with you?

You just met this guy, how much do you really know about him to determine he's a good enough , that you should have around your child or be blending families at all It should be a big concern to you that he puts a heavy emphasis on wife and kids. There's a lot of very bad men who claim to want kids, and who date single moms. Don't put the cart before the horse and do your due diligence for your safety and the safety of your child.

You have a lot of assumptions here. I was just curious how others who have successfully navigated blended families have done so. I didn't say I want to HAVE one with this guy. I don't even know him!

Anonymous wrote:OP, how old are you?

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar position 5 years ago and I had two kids. I was in love and he was amazing with my two kids so I agreed to have another child even though I “was done”. Well, two years later we had twins and now I can’t imagine life without them even though it’s been pretty exhausting given I’m 38. A great guy is hard to find when you are a single mom.

Thanks for this. Any tips for successfully blending families? Or how to know if they’d be good to your existing kids? I’m really nervous about that.

What is wrong with you?

You just met this guy, how much do you really know about him to determine he's a good enough , that you should have around your child or be blending families at all It should be a big concern to you that he puts a heavy emphasis on wife and kids. There's a lot of very bad men who claim to want kids, and who date single moms. Don't put the cart before the horse and do your due diligence for your safety and the safety of your child.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar position 5 years ago and I had two kids. I was in love and he was amazing with my two kids so I agreed to have another child even though I “was done”. Well, two years later we had twins and now I can’t imagine life without them even though it’s been pretty exhausting given I’m 38. A great guy is hard to find when you are a single mom.

Thanks for this. Any tips for successfully blending families? Or how to know if they’d be good to your existing kids? I’m really nervous about that.

Anonymous wrote:I was in a similar position 5 years ago and I had two kids. I was in love and he was amazing with my two kids so I agreed to have another child even though I “was done”. Well, two years later we had twins and now I can’t imagine life without them even though it’s been pretty exhausting given I’m 38. A great guy is hard to find when you are a single mom.

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You are wasting his time if you don’t want kids and he does. The thing is, you’re also wasting your time. And you’re possibly setting up your kid to be hurt if you do get serious with him and then it turns out he meant it when he said he wanted children. Break up after date 2 or after 2 years. End result is you still break up.

Anonymous wrote:Then you may be stuck with guys who already have kids and don’t want any more. Will that work for you better than a single guy with no baggage who wants a kid?