To be fair, I’ve never waited that long for takeout, regardless of the time or place. To sit and eat, sure. However, if this is a regular occurrence of the places you frequent, he just isn’t paying attention.

Anonymous wrote:Have you heard of time blindness? It's a thing - look it up. Supposedly 20% of the population are "time blind."

This explains a lot.

Anonymous wrote:This is my husband - he lives "in the moment." It's up to me to have the foresight in the relationship. "Sweetie - can you order the sushi and best to do it by 5:00..." He brings other things to the table, like fun, adventure, creativity and hard work. But he's a total space cadet and almost assuredly ADHD.

I have ADHD and I’m lucky if I realize things in the moment. Usually it’s after the fact so I live with a lot of regret/remorse.

Mostly angry I had to eat late. Why can't he get his sh%t together? Just because you're not even starting to get hungry until 6:30 doesn't mean you can wait until then to eat. What 55 year old man thinks takeout is ready in 10-15 minutes at the height of the Saturday evening rush?

He could probably sense that you were going to blow it all out of proportion based on prior experience, so acted shocked just to keep the conversation moving.

If this is a big problem you are very lucky. What’s the big deal? Just have another drink and enjoy life.

My dh does this too. He won’t want to wait an hour at a restaurant (pre pandemic) but by the time you drive to a different restaurant and wait there (less time), you may as well stay at your first choice.

Do you really care that he was shocked, or are you just mad you had to eat so late?

It's called ADHD. My husband has it and when he’s in charge of meals, we eat 30 minutes to an hour after his announced meal time. Even take-out, because of late ordering.

Have you heard of time blindness? It's a thing - look it up. Supposedly 20% of the population are "time blind."

This is my husband - he lives "in the moment." It's up to me to have the foresight in the relationship. "Sweetie - can you order the sushi and best to do it by 5:00..." He brings other things to the table, like fun, adventure, creativity and hard work. But he's a total space cadet and almost assuredly ADHD.

Cluelessness. Also, probably hunger-induced delusion. I also tend to get rather "surprised" at how long it takes my food to arrive when I am really hungry!

My husband and I agreed to get takout sushi last night. He said he would handle. He was shocked to find out that by ordering at 6:30 pm on a Saturday night, we didn't eat until 7:45. Um, dude, in our bedroom suburb where we've lived over 20 years, 6:30 to 7 is the busy dinner time. Why would you be shocked? I just don't get it.