He want me to ... " No. you don't do that. If it's his project, it's his project. No reason to ramp up your resentment by being involved. Since you disagree - it is his project. However, important to have a timeline. "If the xx isn't gone my yy date, then YOU get rid of it and he has no say.

Just get rid of it and give him $10 and say somebody at work took it.

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Anonymous wrote:Mine does this. I have zero interest and would rather just donate.

He handles it all himself: photos, lists, responds, etc. He will often put on porch and have them leave $ in mailbox.

There is no way I would do this if he threw it on me.

DH does this as well, and has made some good cash. Facebook marketplace is much better than Craigslist.

OP here. My problem with Facebook marketplace is that your name is attached so if you are selling crap for $5 its embarrassing. Craiglist is anonymous.

So anyway, I just told him that I'm only helping sell the stuff I think is worth our time. If he wants to sell the rest he's on his own. He took it surprisingly well. Thanks for the confidence boost DCUM!

Anonymous wrote:Mine does this. I have zero interest and would rather just donate.

He handles it all himself: photos, lists, responds, etc. He will often put on porch and have them leave $ in mailbox.

There is no way I would do this if he threw it on me.

DH does this as well, and has made some good cash. Facebook marketplace is much better than Craigslist.

I have an annoying husband like this.

I pick a sequence of dry days, take the photos, write the listing, and say in all caps FREE CURB PICK UP. Then I put it out and forget about it. Anything that isn’t picked up by trash day does in the trash. Once I had to schedule a free large item pick up the night before trash day.

No way would I spend my time photographing and writing listings for him. He wants to sell things, he can do that himself. I like PP’s idea of having a deadline that it has to sell by or else it gets donated/trashed.

I would absolutely not do that.

Anonymous wrote:Here's how we do it (similar dynamic):

He thinks he can sell it? Great! By when? He says "before the end of the year." I say "Great! Let's give you a little wiggle room in case something goes wrong, and I put a post it on the item that says 1/31/21. If it's still in the house that day, I'm going to donate or throw it out."

Surprisingly, my husband has sold probably 3/4 of the stuff (I think the deadline helps), and then, having been given the chance, he's fine throwing out the rest of it. Works for us.

Oh, just to note - if he asked ME to take photos and post listings, that'd be a firm no.

Here's how we do it (similar dynamic):

He thinks he can sell it? Great! By when? He says "before the end of the year." I say "Great! Let's give you a little wiggle room in case something goes wrong, and I put a post it on the item that says 1/31/21. If it's still in the house that day, I'm going to donate or throw it out."

Surprisingly, my husband has sold probably 3/4 of the stuff (I think the deadline helps), and then, having been given the chance, he's fine throwing out the rest of it. Works for us.

Anonymous wrote:Hell no, you don’t have to. You know what your time is worth. If he wants to sell them he can manage the whole process.

I’m PP. missed the part where he won’t take the initiative to post the listings.

Just to get rid of the junk without causing drama, I’d probably cave and just half ass some photos and a listing and make sure I didn’t spent more than a few minutes. Hopefully he’d hold up his end of the bargain of dealing with people, which is the time suck.

Mine does this. I have zero interest and would rather just donate.

He handles it all himself: photos, lists, responds, etc. He will often put on porch and have them leave $ in mailbox.

There is no way I would do this if he threw it on me.

Hell no, you don’t have to. You know what your time is worth. If he wants to sell them he can manage the whole process.

Anonymous wrote:Have him pull out all the crap and drive it to good will or he can photograph/list it.

(disclaimer: precovid I used to just wait till my husband went on a business trip and things would slowly disappear).

Have him pull out all the crap and drive it to good will or he can photograph/list it.

DH and I have this annoying pattern. Whenever we clean anything out/organize/declutter (which I have to force him to do in the first place), he wants to "sell" all the junk we don't want anymore. And while there are usually a few select items I agree may be worth selling, most of them are either donations, or lets face it, trash.

DH insists he wants to sell them on craigslist. He wants me to photograph them and write listings for him and then he will deal with potential buyers. I tell him I want to just take the stuff to salvation army and don't want to waste our time on this. If I don't do the prep work for them, he will never get around to listing the items.

What is my best play here? I just want the stuff GONE. It completely defeats the point of decluttering if you then continue to keep staring at the junk for a year. Do I have to write these dumb listings for him? WWYD?

Help me DCUM!