At your age, forty is not too old for you.

I would give him a chance.

Unless it really bothers you to say “My 40 yr. old boyfriend.....”

You’re not really into him. If you were, you wouldn’t care how old he was...

Anonymous wrote:31 and 40 is not an age difference. There are other red flags, but age isn't one of them.

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31 and 40 is not an age difference. There are other red flags, but age isn't one of them.

If you’re into him, why not agree to a date? If he’s nice, but you’re not really into him, it’s okay to decline. I never wanted to be widowed earlier in life due to having married a much older man, but if he’s really special, I could overlook a 9 year age difference.

Imagine all the girls he’s strung along to get to 40.

Go for it. I don't understand. 40 is not even that old. What are you worried about?

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and met a man recently who has been insistent I give him a chance and go on a date. I do like him but he's much older than I envisioned a man I would date. He's 40 and never married. He wants to get married and have a family. Am I stupid to let age come between what might be good for me?

Hard pass. This man is nothing to you and already thinks he can tell you what to do? Nope!

Yup. Hard pass. Too old and too pushy and lacks social skills.

Anonymous wrote:I'm 31 and met a man recently who has been insistent I give him a chance and go on a date. I do like him but he's much older than I envisioned a man I would date. He's 40 and never married. He wants to get married and have a family. Am I stupid to let age come between what might be good for me?

Hard pass. This man is nothing to you and already thinks he can tell you what to do? Nope!

Anonymous wrote:You didn’t mention love. This doesn’t sound very passionate, more like a business transaction. That won’t bode well in the long run.

Love? She hasn’t even gone on a date with him.

You didn’t mention love. This doesn’t sound very passionate, more like a business transaction. That won’t bode well in the long run.

Anonymous wrote:I fund that men that old who’ve never been married are damaged.

OP here. There isn’t. He told me that me saw many friends marry and get divorced quickly and he didn’t what that to ever him. His parents have been together for many years and he wants that kind of marriage. He would rather be single than he unhappily married. I completely agree with him.

I fund that men that old who’ve never been married are damaged.

Don't let a potential good fit slip away because he is older than you thought.

I'm 31 and met a man recently who has been insistent I give him a chance and go on a date. I do like him but he's much older than I envisioned a man I would date. He's 40 and never married. He wants to get married and have a family. Am I stupid to let age come between what might be good for me?