We’re pretty open about those things. We both have friends that were partners in the past. I am good friends with more than one of his more serious exes. I see why they were together AND why they aren’t now.

There are a few of his unhappily married female friends I keep an eye on, they (the women) some times get a road not travelled curiosity in their eye. I trust him though.

I do think they should disclose. Not on your third date, but certainly when you are in an exclusive relationship. My now husband and I didn’t really discuss specifics about past partners and it created some awkward and painful moments for me. I don’t need a number or list of all of his partners, but when there was someone still in his friend circle he had dated or slept with, it was not fun for me to find out about it through jokes by his friends when we were together in a big group.

My husband knows that one of my friends is an ex. I also know that he is still friends with some women he used to date. He wanted to know, I did not care, but he still told me.

Anonymous wrote:I have no idea if my ex boyfriend’s long term girlfriend knows we were a couple for like 4 years. I try not to say anything that would throw him under the bus if he hasn’t told her.

Hopefully, he has otherwise, you two are making it worse for yourselves. I don't have an issue with exes that remain friends, what bothers me is the lying about it.

I have no idea if my ex boyfriend’s long term girlfriend knows we were a couple for like 4 years. I try not to say anything that would throw him under the bus if he hasn’t told her.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ Also a great question

It's actually a stupid question.

Not really.

Stop derailing the thread please, contribute in a meaningful way or move on.

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^ Also a great question

It's actually a stupid question.

Not really.

Anonymous wrote:Why do you want to know OP

I have a feeling my boyfriend and his female bff who is now married have had more than the 5th grade hand holding first kiss relationship, they claim, there's just something there I can't put my finger on.

Anonymous wrote:Are you prepared for the answer?

What do you mean?

Why do you want to know OP

Anonymous wrote:^ Also a great question

It's actually a stupid question.

^ Also a great question

Are you prepared for the answer?

Probably, yes... I can also see why they would not, for obvious reasons.

Do you think an SO should disclose if they have had sex with one of their friends?